What’s really key is that this, according to the letter that inspired the cartoon, wasn’t about revenge on an ex. The argument the letter writer mentions below, that “this must have been an accident,” really shakes me up:
“We got married overseas and did the “legal bit” in a courthouse. Since the courthouse was small, we invited only close family and the wedding party, no significant others — who joined us for lunch after.
“Friends and family were fine with this. However, my now-brother-in-law’s girlfriend interpreted this as a personal slight. BIL sent my husband a barrage of texts arguing for her to attend. I met with her to explain the seating (my aunt’s husband wasn’t going!) and said it wasn’t meant as a slight. She made clear she would not forgive me.
“The courthouse ceremony went well, so imagine my surprise when she wore a transparent mesh dress with a black thong and no bra to our religious wedding. She has no history of wearing revealing clothes. I’m an only child, and this was an important day for my parents, so I am angry that she thought this was the way to voice her frustrations.
“… My husband and I have always been friendly with her. We’ve privately not had a high view, since she screams at waiters, is rude to my brother-in-law’s friends (I think he’s been isolated from them), etc., but never voiced these concerns. I don’t even know how to behave around her now.
“It doesn’t help that my husband’s family insist this must have been an accident and we are being paranoid. They want my husband to reach out to his brother to “hear his side.”
“We think his brother will propose soon, which is obviously his choice, but means even more time with her. I want to let this go, but on top of feeling disrespected by the girlfriend, I now feel betrayed by the family. How do I move forward?”
Darsan54 Premium Member 3 months ago
Gotta admire that sense of confidence.
goboboyd 3 months ago
The Revenge Dress lives!
DHBirr 3 months ago
What’s really key is that this, according to the letter that inspired the cartoon, wasn’t about revenge on an ex. The argument the letter writer mentions below, that “this must have been an accident,” really shakes me up:
“We got married overseas and did the “legal bit” in a courthouse. Since the courthouse was small, we invited only close family and the wedding party, no significant others — who joined us for lunch after.
“Friends and family were fine with this. However, my now-brother-in-law’s girlfriend interpreted this as a personal slight. BIL sent my husband a barrage of texts arguing for her to attend. I met with her to explain the seating (my aunt’s husband wasn’t going!) and said it wasn’t meant as a slight. She made clear she would not forgive me.
“The courthouse ceremony went well, so imagine my surprise when she wore a transparent mesh dress with a black thong and no bra to our religious wedding. She has no history of wearing revealing clothes. I’m an only child, and this was an important day for my parents, so I am angry that she thought this was the way to voice her frustrations.
“… My husband and I have always been friendly with her. We’ve privately not had a high view, since she screams at waiters, is rude to my brother-in-law’s friends (I think he’s been isolated from them), etc., but never voiced these concerns. I don’t even know how to behave around her now.
“It doesn’t help that my husband’s family insist this must have been an accident and we are being paranoid. They want my husband to reach out to his brother to “hear his side.”
“We think his brother will propose soon, which is obviously his choice, but means even more time with her. I want to let this go, but on top of feeling disrespected by the girlfriend, I now feel betrayed by the family. How do I move forward?”