In general, doing even a little thing differently can help reduce the heartache. As arolarson says, let Jason take the lead, and be ready with some suggestions to offer.
My grandparents took me to a touring performance of the Fantasticks, before it appeared on The Hallmark Hall of Fame. I was so young that at the cast party I sat on John Davidson’s lap.
My mother would respectfully say that camels look so wise because, unlike humans, they know the 100th name of God.