I go by “her husband”. For a few decades I was known as “xxxxxxxx’s Dad” (had two daughters and it would have been either of their names). I know a lot of people get upset being an “extension”. However it works both ways. To people that just knew me, my wife was known as my wife.
I went through that in Jan 23. The catheter was huge, it hurt a LOT and they kept it in for a week. It took me almost a year before I could walk a half mile without stopping for rests. Also, radical prostatectomies really screw up your hormones. That one I’m still dealing with.
The company I was working for closed down my division and I ended up looking for a job (it was telecom and the whole industry just dropped off). Was interviewing with the group Finance Director (where I ended up) and he asked me where I saw myself in 5 years. I laughed and replied "no idea, I quit thinking about it. If you had asked me 5 years ago, my answer wouldn’t have been “unemployed and talking to you”". He sort of looked at me and I added that there are too many variables outside of my control and all I could do was plan a path, execute the plan but keep an open mind and evolve with new information or the situation changed.
Instead of indoors, drinking coffee on the back patio listening to the soft wind chimes or on the front porch waving to the neighbors out walking their dogs.
I’m at zero