Connie must move on with her life. There are a lot of people that have had heartbreaking things happen in their life. But you put it aside after you grieve. She won’t let herself grow from the experiences.
When my first wife and I got a divorce at first I felt alone and empty. Then I realized that our divorce was not a result of either one of us screwing up, we had just grown in different directions. We’d been married for 13 years. I did not want those years to be a waste of a good friendship. So I pursued her again, but with no romantic intentions. We happily resumed our friendship and I photographed her wedding for her when she remarried.
Ahhhh, so that explains some of the reasons Lawrence turns gay later- a missing father and a fear of becoming a man who would mistreat a woman like his father or Peter.
Divorce is never easy and being a single parent is even harder. I grew up with a single mom. But it’s real easy to fall into self pity. Connie’s friend need to help her realize life is in no way over because of her situation and many more people have been in her situation and come through fine…. what any one of us would need to realize when life gives us lemons.
Actually, there is not conclusive evidence that homosexuality is a purely genetic condition, or even genetic at all.
Read the history of the search for a “gay Gene” http://www.bio.davidson.edu/Courses/genomics/2002/Pierce/gaygene.htm
from the biology dept. of Davidson College.
http://colleges.usnews.rankingsandreviews.com/college/items/2918
The mainstream press have taken science they don’t understand and debated it’s sociological, philosophical and etc. meaning for ever. This gives a strangely contorted idea of what has been scientifically “proven”.
Finally, there is much evidence that a majority, over 55% of “gay males” have had a precipitating premature sexual event in their childhoods, a molestation, that has imprinted then through complex mental processes to identify themselves as gay.
Scientifically homosexuality is abnormal, but so is thinking death metal is good music. It doesn’t make a person any less of a human being or a bad person, or any less deserving of basic human rights. But those simple facts get lost in debate between zealots on both sides of the debate.
In any case, there’s a time to vent and contemplate your misfortunes, then it’s time to move on. Hopefully Connie sees that soon.
We are as we are made. Nature VS nurture arguments kill me. As if any particular part of who we are can be so simplified as being strictly one or the other, and for the rest of our lives no less?
People need to accept that we are complex organisms whose behavior arises out of a combination of biology and social stimuli both, embroidered by whatever degree of free will we get, what we eat, and whether we stubbed our toe getting out of bed.
Linking to a truly Scientific Journal would be difficult, as generally, one needs to have an account to get more than access to abstracts. This article, which most of you won’t understand, (whereas, the “undergraduate paper” was well documented AND READABLE BY THE SCIENTIFICALLY ILLITERATE WHICH INCLUDES THE OVERWHELMING MAJORITY OF Americans, including most members of the Press, unfortunately)was originally printed in the ny review of books.
http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/assault/genetics/nyreview.html
Exclusive homosexuality is as “abnormal” as exclusive heterosexuality.
Sexual Orientation is a bell curve function. with some at one end, some at the other, and most in the middle, being willing to “swing both ways”.
Sexual practices, on the other hand, are heavily influenced by social pressure. In a society where strong social pressure exists to conform to a limited group of socially acceptable behaviors, few will behave outside that group, or will do so in secret.
kittylover2 over 15 years ago
Connie must move on with her life. There are a lot of people that have had heartbreaking things happen in their life. But you put it aside after you grieve. She won’t let herself grow from the experiences.
serenasakitty over 15 years ago
Doctortoon, you sound like someone worth knowing.
alondra over 15 years ago
I like what you said doctortoon. It would be good advice to anyone who’s going through something awful like a divorce.
ninmas over 15 years ago
doesn’t she marry someone named greg?
cleokaya over 15 years ago
When my first wife and I got a divorce at first I felt alone and empty. Then I realized that our divorce was not a result of either one of us screwing up, we had just grown in different directions. We’d been married for 13 years. I did not want those years to be a waste of a good friendship. So I pursued her again, but with no romantic intentions. We happily resumed our friendship and I photographed her wedding for her when she remarried.
Silverpearl over 15 years ago
Good people don’t stay mad or sad. If you don’t forgive and forget it hurts only you.
bashar327 over 15 years ago
Ahhhh, so that explains some of the reasons Lawrence turns gay later- a missing father and a fear of becoming a man who would mistreat a woman like his father or Peter. Divorce is never easy and being a single parent is even harder. I grew up with a single mom. But it’s real easy to fall into self pity. Connie’s friend need to help her realize life is in no way over because of her situation and many more people have been in her situation and come through fine…. what any one of us would need to realize when life gives us lemons.
carmy over 15 years ago
Kudos, for Doc and Cleo!
ewennick over 15 years ago
bashar, people don’t “turn gay.” They are or they aren’t. It’s a genetic predisposition, not a “choice.”
elikelp over 15 years ago
Actually, there is not conclusive evidence that homosexuality is a purely genetic condition, or even genetic at all. Read the history of the search for a “gay Gene” http://www.bio.davidson.edu/Courses/genomics/2002/Pierce/gaygene.htm from the biology dept. of Davidson College. http://colleges.usnews.rankingsandreviews.com/college/items/2918
elikelp over 15 years ago
The mainstream press have taken science they don’t understand and debated it’s sociological, philosophical and etc. meaning for ever. This gives a strangely contorted idea of what has been scientifically “proven”.
tasha_medved over 15 years ago
Oh, please. That’s an undergraduate paper. Show me something in a scientific journal.
elikelp over 15 years ago
Finally, there is much evidence that a majority, over 55% of “gay males” have had a precipitating premature sexual event in their childhoods, a molestation, that has imprinted then through complex mental processes to identify themselves as gay.
bashar327 over 15 years ago
Scientifically homosexuality is abnormal, but so is thinking death metal is good music. It doesn’t make a person any less of a human being or a bad person, or any less deserving of basic human rights. But those simple facts get lost in debate between zealots on both sides of the debate. In any case, there’s a time to vent and contemplate your misfortunes, then it’s time to move on. Hopefully Connie sees that soon.
GuntotingLiberal over 15 years ago
We are as we are made. Nature VS nurture arguments kill me. As if any particular part of who we are can be so simplified as being strictly one or the other, and for the rest of our lives no less?
People need to accept that we are complex organisms whose behavior arises out of a combination of biology and social stimuli both, embroidered by whatever degree of free will we get, what we eat, and whether we stubbed our toe getting out of bed.
Allan CB Premium Member over 15 years ago
hmmm NICE … I LIKE the backstory we’re getting here … hope we can find out more of other characters!
elikelp over 15 years ago
Linking to a truly Scientific Journal would be difficult, as generally, one needs to have an account to get more than access to abstracts. This article, which most of you won’t understand, (whereas, the “undergraduate paper” was well documented AND READABLE BY THE SCIENTIFICALLY ILLITERATE WHICH INCLUDES THE OVERWHELMING MAJORITY OF Americans, including most members of the Press, unfortunately)was originally printed in the ny review of books. http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/assault/genetics/nyreview.html
Miserichord over 15 years ago
Exclusive homosexuality is as “abnormal” as exclusive heterosexuality.
Sexual Orientation is a bell curve function. with some at one end, some at the other, and most in the middle, being willing to “swing both ways”.
Sexual practices, on the other hand, are heavily influenced by social pressure. In a society where strong social pressure exists to conform to a limited group of socially acceptable behaviors, few will behave outside that group, or will do so in secret.