Spouse used to understand my innate “Earlness” in this regard. But more recently, she just gets upset when I don’t know something that she knows perfectly well. Like telling me to get the bag of vitamins… “Where is it?”… “in the dresser (full stop).” There are three dressers within easy reach. Each has at least 5 drawers. If I just stare at her, she eventually says “WHAT?” without any understanding that she’s left me confused. If, on the other hand, I say “which dresser, which drawer?” she’s annoyed that I don’t already know.
Spouse used to understand my innate “Earlness” in this regard. But more recently, she just gets upset when I don’t know something that she knows perfectly well. Like telling me to get the bag of vitamins… “Where is it?”… “in the dresser (full stop).” There are three dressers within easy reach. Each has at least 5 drawers. If I just stare at her, she eventually says “WHAT?” without any understanding that she’s left me confused. If, on the other hand, I say “which dresser, which drawer?” she’s annoyed that I don’t already know.