Well, Nabuqudiriuzhur, you haven’t met my husband. He doesn’t cut the lawn (I do), he doesn’t fix the car (Tunex does), he doesn’t fix the bikes (he doesn’t even own one), he doesn’t do maintenance (I do), he doesn’t fix the sinks (I do), he doesn’t paint (I do), he doesn’t wash the car (I do that with my 5-year-old) and he doesn’t do other yard work either. Sometimes he will do the dishes, but he doesn’t touch the laundry, doesn’t clean the bathrooms/toilets, doesn’t cook anything more than condensed soup or ramen noodles, and doesn’t even pick up his own dirty socks to put them in the hamper. Do I have your permission to complain on occasion?
Its a choice of being yelled at for doing nothing or doing it wrong. I choose the first, because then I can ask how she wants it done today ( which is most likely different than she wanted it done yesterday).
cutiepie, not only permission to complain, but if you watch some CSI episodes you can see which pitfalls to avoid being accused of homicide after you get rid of the body
I’m with you cutiepie29. Mine does very little, but fortunately he recognizes most of it, so he pays someone to do it (mow the lawn, do maintenance, paint, etc). I’ll give him credit for that, although it’d be cheaper if we could do it ourselves.
mow the lawn–once a week–seasonally
garden work–2-3 times a week–seasonally
fix the car / bike / whatever–only as needed
paint the house–once every few years
wash the car–once a week, maybe
maintainence–as needed
versus:
cook / prepare meals–3 times a day
wash dishes–1-3 times a day
wash laundry / ironing–several loads a week to daily
clean bathroom(s)–at least once a week per room
vaccuum / sweep / mop–1-3 times a week or more
dusting–several times a week
shopping for all of the above–weekly or more
picking up after others–daily or more
Yeah…looks pretty even to me…not!
And that’s not including kid care.
If you’re not sure what your mom did with her time, how do you know it was not related to the home or work? Hmm?
The thing is that many tasks which the male does are sporadic (weekly?) but many female tasks fall in the daily category. I suppose if it works out in the balance, it’s okay but I’m wondering if the balance is weighted.
I don’t think so ill of a man who is still working, if he doesn’t do much around the house - especially if his wife doesn’t have another job. But after he’s retired and he’s just sitting around all day like Earl, it would bother me, because when does the wife get to retire?
Llewellenbruce over 14 years ago
Earl’s in the same league as Andy Capp and Snuffy Smith.
GROG Premium Member over 14 years ago
Earl’s da man
cutiepie29 over 14 years ago
Well, Nabuqudiriuzhur, you haven’t met my husband. He doesn’t cut the lawn (I do), he doesn’t fix the car (Tunex does), he doesn’t fix the bikes (he doesn’t even own one), he doesn’t do maintenance (I do), he doesn’t fix the sinks (I do), he doesn’t paint (I do), he doesn’t wash the car (I do that with my 5-year-old) and he doesn’t do other yard work either. Sometimes he will do the dishes, but he doesn’t touch the laundry, doesn’t clean the bathrooms/toilets, doesn’t cook anything more than condensed soup or ramen noodles, and doesn’t even pick up his own dirty socks to put them in the hamper. Do I have your permission to complain on occasion?
tomtweit over 14 years ago
Its a choice of being yelled at for doing nothing or doing it wrong. I choose the first, because then I can ask how she wants it done today ( which is most likely different than she wanted it done yesterday).
rotts over 14 years ago
@cutiepie29 - and you’re married to him, why?
Nighthawks Premium Member over 14 years ago
cutiepie, not only permission to complain, but if you watch some CSI episodes you can see which pitfalls to avoid being accused of homicide after you get rid of the body
gobblingup Premium Member over 14 years ago
I’m with you cutiepie29. Mine does very little, but fortunately he recognizes most of it, so he pays someone to do it (mow the lawn, do maintenance, paint, etc). I’ll give him credit for that, although it’d be cheaper if we could do it ourselves.
cheetahqueen over 14 years ago
Nabuquduriuzhur…Hmm…let’s see:
mow the lawn–once a week–seasonally garden work–2-3 times a week–seasonally fix the car / bike / whatever–only as needed paint the house–once every few years wash the car–once a week, maybe maintainence–as needed
versus:
cook / prepare meals–3 times a day wash dishes–1-3 times a day wash laundry / ironing–several loads a week to daily clean bathroom(s)–at least once a week per room vaccuum / sweep / mop–1-3 times a week or more dusting–several times a week shopping for all of the above–weekly or more picking up after others–daily or more
Yeah…looks pretty even to me…not! And that’s not including kid care.
If you’re not sure what your mom did with her time, how do you know it was not related to the home or work? Hmm?
lin4869 over 14 years ago
The thing is that many tasks which the male does are sporadic (weekly?) but many female tasks fall in the daily category. I suppose if it works out in the balance, it’s okay but I’m wondering if the balance is weighted.
Yakety Sax over 14 years ago
“Do not grouse until you have walked a few miles in the moccasins of your spouse.”
Smiley Rmom over 14 years ago
I don’t think so ill of a man who is still working, if he doesn’t do much around the house - especially if his wife doesn’t have another job. But after he’s retired and he’s just sitting around all day like Earl, it would bother me, because when does the wife get to retire?