You’ll have more dishes, laundry and chores with children. You’ll have unconditional love both ways, but it will be more work than just being a couple.
When I lived in NC, one of my co-workers asked if I had to help my parents shovel when I was growing up. I said “Yes of course, that’s why people have children in the Midwest!”
I have to agree about the expense of kids, then there’s the stress and angst of balancing your life with theirs. Looking back on it now that mine are grown and gone it was the best and worst times all together. I wasn’t sure I was cut out to be a Mom. I was to young and had little experience with children when I had my daughter. Five years later when I had my son I was ready for him and knew what to expect. It all worked out as best it could in the end. I can’t imagine NOT having had them now, only that my life would look much different than it does now. I’ve left a legacy of sorts for better or worse. I did my best based on my circumstances. If you do your best with the cards you’re dealt and things will work out.
Instead of adopting, you could have a small day care center for a few children. That way, you can be a mother and then when they go home, you can have some time for yourself.
I am way late to this party…but with my youngest step son…he used to go through his clothes and anything he did not want to wear he literally just tossed on the floor.(we had a separate wardrobe for him when he visited because it was easier than trying to rely on someone else to make sure he had clothes for the weekend.) So i was literally doing an entire load of clothes just for him on a weekend. So I finally got tired of that and said"if you can operate an X box and a computer you can operate a washer and dryer. You are doing your own laundry from now on." (he was about 11 at this point) He learned not to just toss all his clothes on the floor from then on when it became more work for him. Also we did not have to chase him to do it…we had a program we could shut off his computer remotely so he did not have much choice…his computer would stay off until he had the laundry going and then we would remind him to change it over. It got so he would do it on his own after a time with out us having to chase him.
Laurie Sefton Premium Member over 4 years ago
Get a dishwasher—they’re cheaper and no one gives you guff if you replace it!
lizliadis over 4 years ago
You’ll have more dishes, laundry and chores with children. You’ll have unconditional love both ways, but it will be more work than just being a couple.
Melki Premium Member over 4 years ago
Oh, yeah – they’ll do chores . . . right after they take care of that dog they talked you into buying them.
Michael G. over 4 years ago
House-cleaning services are, in the long run, less expensive. And once the job is finished, they silently exit. Food for thought?
e98twin2 over 4 years ago
When I lived in NC, one of my co-workers asked if I had to help my parents shovel when I was growing up. I said “Yes of course, that’s why people have children in the Midwest!”
Perkycat over 4 years ago
Kids are good for something.
BJIllistrated Premium Member over 4 years ago
I have to agree about the expense of kids, then there’s the stress and angst of balancing your life with theirs. Looking back on it now that mine are grown and gone it was the best and worst times all together. I wasn’t sure I was cut out to be a Mom. I was to young and had little experience with children when I had my daughter. Five years later when I had my son I was ready for him and knew what to expect. It all worked out as best it could in the end. I can’t imagine NOT having had them now, only that my life would look much different than it does now. I’ve left a legacy of sorts for better or worse. I did my best based on my circumstances. If you do your best with the cards you’re dealt and things will work out.
katina.cooper over 4 years ago
Instead of adopting, you could have a small day care center for a few children. That way, you can be a mother and then when they go home, you can have some time for yourself.
LisaMarieWills 11 months ago
I am way late to this party…but with my youngest step son…he used to go through his clothes and anything he did not want to wear he literally just tossed on the floor.(we had a separate wardrobe for him when he visited because it was easier than trying to rely on someone else to make sure he had clothes for the weekend.) So i was literally doing an entire load of clothes just for him on a weekend. So I finally got tired of that and said"if you can operate an X box and a computer you can operate a washer and dryer. You are doing your own laundry from now on." (he was about 11 at this point) He learned not to just toss all his clothes on the floor from then on when it became more work for him. Also we did not have to chase him to do it…we had a program we could shut off his computer remotely so he did not have much choice…his computer would stay off until he had the laundry going and then we would remind him to change it over. It got so he would do it on his own after a time with out us having to chase him.