For Better or For Worse by Lynn Johnston for August 01, 2010

I SO remember doing that (blaming my sister and sending my children to their rooms) !

Is there ever a day someone isn’t screaming?

not with two preschoolers in the house. Been there, done that! Nap time was heavenly! (if only because that was the only time I could get much done of the housework!)

She could also have put it “so the judge and jury don’t become the executioner”

So true…

Hey there, howtheduck. It’s been a while, I think.

Boy have I done that too!,,

If I have my own kids like that on the strip, I would send two kids to their rooms for agruing each other with no reasons. Also, I do remember the story in the bible about King Solomon (spelling name?) told both of ladies that he would cut one baby into half. One of two ladies screamed hysterically and grabbed the baby and another lady looked like she didn’t care. She ended up with punishment. That story touched my heart for years! Bless the Lord for wonderful story.

When my brother and I get into it my Mom sent us both to our rooms, no matter ‘who started it’. We learned not to fight in front of our Mom. Later in life we just didn’t fight, we protected each other. No body messed with my brother if they didn’t want to mess with me, and visa versa.

Wildmustang–the way I heard the story, one woman agreed to cutting the child in half, but the other begged Solomon to give the child to the first woman rather than harm it. Solomon gave the child to the woman who preferred the child live. Same result, but I prefer the more dignified version :-) It is one of my favorite Bible stories, too.

excuse me, but why would the person who fights back against the bully get blamed? Is it that old “blame the victim” philosophy? you know, like saying of a girl that “she asked for it”?

surely we have not regressed so far!!

There is actually a good lesson there. All that petty bickering isn’t worth the consequences. And placing blame isn’t really as important as resolving issues peaceably amongst yourselves.

Yeah, blame the victim is a very standard game in the schools. But there is no bullying going on here that I can see, only sibling bickering. Ellie isn’t ‘blaming the victim’, she’s just separating them and putting a stop to something before it escalates.Or she blows.Good strategy, in my book.

I agree Hawthorne, it’s how my mother handled it with three girls, and how I handled it with my son and daughter. When they both started the blame game and I really had no way of finding our who started what………….off to their rooms.

Back when I was a child, my parents couldn’t send my sister and me to our rooms to separate us from fighting because we both shared the same room!

I remember my life changing when my baby brother learned to talk.

I’ll bet he learned at an early age, too. For self-defense.

Oh no Fish Stix, You don’t realy experance parenthood until you have at least two. That way each one can blam another.

Good call, Mom.

I had to take my son at of school and start homeschooling him because of the bullying. He was getting blamed for the bullying when he was defending himself. I even had witness’s to this fact, but the school wouldn’t listen. It turned out better tho, when my son was in the third grade at public school he couldn’t even spell school. A year later he was spelling 5th grade words.