This is something else I hate about the post-2000 years.
If a man isn’t physically into a woman, he’s either a wuss to be passed over or he’s gay.
The former has been codified by the testosterous so often that even today, the socioatypical such as nerds, lone wolves, etc. are being frequently mistagged.
The latter is becoming such a commonplace concept that I feel the concept of being caring and sensitive is being gradually erased from society.
Being in control of one’s physicality is more essential than most people believe. Particularly if they’re more used to handing hormones the wheel. (Clam up, pseudo-feminists – I’m the one raised by a neurochemist. I know what hormones do. I know what it means to synthesize testosterone and add it to tobacco. Never done it though – that was sort of my old man’s beat. It was like growing up in Breaking Bad.)
Handing hormones the wheel aside, there are also the less socially conditioned to consider. In Matthew’s case, even if he isn’t closeted, the obsessive (borderline Japanese – you don’t want to know when and how Japanese mothers start fetishising their sons) smothering his mother has demonstrated throughout this arc and his subservient, milquetoast responses indicate that he’s basically a massively non-violent Ed Gein. (Or for anyone with a marginal knowledge of Hitchcock, an inordinately placid Norman Bates.)
Thanks to mourdac’s snide example yesterday, “the 40-year-old virgin”, we have an example of how lack of socialization at an early age (or even exposure to massive social rejection, e.g. bullying) can demoralize any individual – often near-irreparably. Sometimes the physical can overwhelm the mind to an immobilizing extent, or vice versa, and either way, the sensory capacities of the physical can ruin a relationship too early. (The Japanese call this social phenomenon “grass-eating” because of the apparent reticence on the part of males to get physical.)
This is something else I hate about the post-2000 years.
If a man isn’t physically into a woman, he’s either a wuss to be passed over or he’s gay.
The former has been codified by the testosterous so often that even today, the socioatypical such as nerds, lone wolves, etc. are being frequently mistagged.
The latter is becoming such a commonplace concept that I feel the concept of being caring and sensitive is being gradually erased from society.
Being in control of one’s physicality is more essential than most people believe. Particularly if they’re more used to handing hormones the wheel. (Clam up, pseudo-feminists – I’m the one raised by a neurochemist. I know what hormones do. I know what it means to synthesize testosterone and add it to tobacco. Never done it though – that was sort of my old man’s beat. It was like growing up in Breaking Bad.)
Handing hormones the wheel aside, there are also the less socially conditioned to consider. In Matthew’s case, even if he isn’t closeted, the obsessive (borderline Japanese – you don’t want to know when and how Japanese mothers start fetishising their sons) smothering his mother has demonstrated throughout this arc and his subservient, milquetoast responses indicate that he’s basically a massively non-violent Ed Gein. (Or for anyone with a marginal knowledge of Hitchcock, an inordinately placid Norman Bates.)
Thanks to mourdac’s snide example yesterday, “the 40-year-old virgin”, we have an example of how lack of socialization at an early age (or even exposure to massive social rejection, e.g. bullying) can demoralize any individual – often near-irreparably. Sometimes the physical can overwhelm the mind to an immobilizing extent, or vice versa, and either way, the sensory capacities of the physical can ruin a relationship too early. (The Japanese call this social phenomenon “grass-eating” because of the apparent reticence on the part of males to get physical.)
Mensch, I hate what machismo does to people…