It’s difficult seeing one’s parents age when you don’t want them to! This is known as the “sandwich” age. It goes like this: children at one end, middle-age parents in the middle, and older parents on the other end. It isn’t easy when you see your parents (or older adults you may know) slow down and you find you have to help them. Especially difficult when there are also children involved. No-one wants to have to think about our loved ones (and ourselves) eventually passing on… ;)
I wish, my wife and I, still had at least one of our parents. I miss having someone to gift on ’Mother’s Day’ and ’Father’s Day’. While nice to receive items on those days, it is a whole lot better giving after all they have given us. R. I. P. to our parents all six of them ! ! !
Everyone from my parents and my wife’s parents generation are gone except for one of her aunts, age 93. In some ways she’s like my son’s 14 year old beagle. Battered and bruised (she chipped a few vertebrae in a fall) but they both keep on going. Time takes us all, though, eventually.
I felt the same way about my mom. It was painful to watch her deteriorate from the Parkinson’s Disease. Helping her has given me a heart to help other folks older than I.
At this time, my parents lived in Hope, British Columbia. To get to North Bay was quite a haul: a two-hour drive to Vancouver, a flight to Toronto, and another to North Bay. With two kids, it was even more hassle for us to go to them. The few times we did get together for Christmas were much-celebrated events.
Which “her” are you referring to in regards to hassle to travel? If the her is Lynn’s mother, then yes, cancer makes travel tougher, especially with situations like mal der mer and jet lag. Does Lynn also have cancer, or some debilitating disease? If not, then I am unsure how that makes it tough for her as you pointed out.
summerdog86 almost 10 years ago
Well, I mind ME getting older! ; )
Argythree almost 10 years ago
I understand what Elly’s remark meant, now that everyone in my parent’s generation has passed…
ORMouseworks almost 10 years ago
It’s difficult seeing one’s parents age when you don’t want them to! This is known as the “sandwich” age. It goes like this: children at one end, middle-age parents in the middle, and older parents on the other end. It isn’t easy when you see your parents (or older adults you may know) slow down and you find you have to help them. Especially difficult when there are also children involved. No-one wants to have to think about our loved ones (and ourselves) eventually passing on… ;)
IndyMan almost 10 years ago
I wish, my wife and I, still had at least one of our parents. I miss having someone to gift on ’Mother’s Day’ and ’Father’s Day’. While nice to receive items on those days, it is a whole lot better giving after all they have given us. R. I. P. to our parents all six of them ! ! !
ladykat almost 10 years ago
My mother-in-law is still going strong.
rshive almost 10 years ago
Getting older just sort of happens, Ellie. A mysterious process.
Charlie Fogwhistle almost 10 years ago
Everyone from my parents and my wife’s parents generation are gone except for one of her aunts, age 93. In some ways she’s like my son’s 14 year old beagle. Battered and bruised (she chipped a few vertebrae in a fall) but they both keep on going. Time takes us all, though, eventually.
JanLC almost 10 years ago
I felt the same way about my mom. It was painful to watch her deteriorate from the Parkinson’s Disease. Helping her has given me a heart to help other folks older than I.
JanLC almost 10 years ago
Lynn’s Notes:
At this time, my parents lived in Hope, British Columbia. To get to North Bay was quite a haul: a two-hour drive to Vancouver, a flight to Toronto, and another to North Bay. With two kids, it was even more hassle for us to go to them. The few times we did get together for Christmas were much-celebrated events.
USN1977 almost 10 years ago
Which “her” are you referring to in regards to hassle to travel? If the her is Lynn’s mother, then yes, cancer makes travel tougher, especially with situations like mal der mer and jet lag. Does Lynn also have cancer, or some debilitating disease? If not, then I am unsure how that makes it tough for her as you pointed out.