Unfortunately, society perpetuates the myth that a woman without a man is incomplete. Single women are viewed as losers, no matter how successful they may be in their chosen career. Back when these strips were originally drawn the pressure to “couple” was even worse. At least Phil is a decent man, unlike Ted, the creepy jerk.
The same Connie, but that was in the future. The strip has gone back in time, so I think she’s just thinking about this for the first time. Foolish as it is …..
“Connie did not exist. Her character was based on someone real, but had morphed considerably. Her crush on Elly’s brother, Phil, was just a fun idea and good fodder for the strip. I had no plans for where this relationship would lead - I let the story go where it wanted to go. In fact, Connie’s loneliness came wholly from my own experience as a single mother - everything she said came from some painful places I needed to visit again. ”
I have to say, I’ve been in Lynn’s shoes and it was not a fun place to be. And catlady1, you are right. Society (mostly media driven) plays a big part in that feeling that there’s something wrong with you if you don’t have a man in your life.
It ain’t just women. My brother-in-law has been married four times because he can’t function alone, and needs someone to manage his life (the way his mother did until she died, even while he was married, which went over really well with the wives).
Phil better prepares when he moves to live with Elly and her family. If Connie harasses Phil to get into the bed again, Phil should get TPO against Connie for his protection.
Phil needs to grow a pair and tell Connie he just … isn’t … interested … period!!!!! I don’t think he should be mean about it but he needs to nip this thing in the bud where she’s concerned before if gets even more out of control now that he’s going to be living next door to her for a while. He may only see her as a friend and not a potential future love interest but he knows full well that she’s got the hots for him and is hoping for more than just a “friends with benefits” relationship with him! If he were a true gentleman, he wouldn’t string her along like he has a habit of doing … he’d be upfront and honest with her regarding his real, true feelings where she’s concerned. Her feelings may get hurt in the process but better now than later.
Aaron – It should also be noted that the relationship that Phil HAD when Connie chased him to Toronto or Montreal (can’t remember), seems to be over– as there is no mention of him bringing the girlfriend along.
There is also never any mention of how many relationships the guys in this strip have and then lose one way or another. Methinks perhaps there is a bit of a double standard.
Nabuquduriuzhur: I’ve seen postings like this from you before. Instead of living in such anger and bitterness where you are, have you thought about moving somewhere else where you’ll have better luck??? You don’t even have to leave the state of Oregon if you don’t want to. It’s a pretty big place so maybe you could try moving to a different city further away than your current one where the women might have a more different frame of mind than where you’re at right now.
Not all of us women are nothing but a bunch of drunk, slutty, party girls with STD’s and a different father for every child we have that doesn’t care about anything except ourselves and believe that the world revolves around us and ought to be catering to our every want/need/desire every minute of every day!!! Some of us actually do care about our families, our community, the environment, the bone-headed decisions politicians are making for/forcing on us, etc. So instead of sitting around and complaining, get off your rear-end and do something about it!!!!!
And btw — I married my sweet, kind, warm, loving, funny, generous husband 22 years ago because he was a good man with good, moral character … not in spite of it!!!!!
pouncingtiger over 13 years ago
“Desparation is the English way.” - Pink Floyd
ABComic over 13 years ago
Well, Elly tried….
dugharry over 13 years ago
Desperation kills the seeds of doubt!!!
magnamax over 13 years ago
nonononononononono
randymi over 13 years ago
Relationships are not all they’re cracked up to be.
Elaine Rosco Premium Member over 13 years ago
Nothing worse than groveling at someone’s feet.
WebSpider over 13 years ago
Time for desperate action, Elly. Tell Phil that Connie has a STD. ;-) [Stupidity transmittable disorder. Totally hopeless. No known cure.]
gobblingup Premium Member over 13 years ago
Eek, this woman needs some self-confidence and/or a hobby that doesn’t involve destructive relationships.
wndrwrthg over 13 years ago
“It’s a song about desperation, every now and then we do get desperate”. The J. Geils Band
freewaydog over 13 years ago
When will she marry Greg?
Donna White over 13 years ago
Unfortunately, society perpetuates the myth that a woman without a man is incomplete. Single women are viewed as losers, no matter how successful they may be in their chosen career. Back when these strips were originally drawn the pressure to “couple” was even worse. At least Phil is a decent man, unlike Ted, the creepy jerk.
NE1956 over 13 years ago
This is the same Connie who traveled to his town, sneaked around to his place, and found out he’s already in a relationship. Right?
dsom8 over 13 years ago
“Incomplete” and “loser” are not synonymous. One can be successful and still be incomplete.
keltii over 13 years ago
yes Aaron,, the same Connie
gvbarb over 13 years ago
The same Connie, but that was in the future. The strip has gone back in time, so I think she’s just thinking about this for the first time. Foolish as it is …..
Nelly55 over 13 years ago
from Lynn’s website:
“Connie did not exist. Her character was based on someone real, but had morphed considerably. Her crush on Elly’s brother, Phil, was just a fun idea and good fodder for the strip. I had no plans for where this relationship would lead - I let the story go where it wanted to go. In fact, Connie’s loneliness came wholly from my own experience as a single mother - everything she said came from some painful places I needed to visit again. ”
I have to say, I’ve been in Lynn’s shoes and it was not a fun place to be. And catlady1, you are right. Society (mostly media driven) plays a big part in that feeling that there’s something wrong with you if you don’t have a man in your life.
gofinsc over 13 years ago
It ain’t just women. My brother-in-law has been married four times because he can’t function alone, and needs someone to manage his life (the way his mother did until she died, even while he was married, which went over really well with the wives).
Wildmustang1262 over 13 years ago
Phil better prepares when he moves to live with Elly and her family. If Connie harasses Phil to get into the bed again, Phil should get TPO against Connie for his protection.
jeffreydahn over 13 years ago
Keep your spoilers to yourself, would you please. If you’re trying to impress anyone with your encyclopedic knowledge, it isn’t working.
Gretchen's Mom over 13 years ago
Phil needs to grow a pair and tell Connie he just … isn’t … interested … period!!!!! I don’t think he should be mean about it but he needs to nip this thing in the bud where she’s concerned before if gets even more out of control now that he’s going to be living next door to her for a while. He may only see her as a friend and not a potential future love interest but he knows full well that she’s got the hots for him and is hoping for more than just a “friends with benefits” relationship with him! If he were a true gentleman, he wouldn’t string her along like he has a habit of doing … he’d be upfront and honest with her regarding his real, true feelings where she’s concerned. Her feelings may get hurt in the process but better now than later.
ilsapadu over 13 years ago
Catlady there is no reason to buy into that myth.
lindz.coop Premium Member over 13 years ago
Aaron – It should also be noted that the relationship that Phil HAD when Connie chased him to Toronto or Montreal (can’t remember), seems to be over– as there is no mention of him bringing the girlfriend along.
There is also never any mention of how many relationships the guys in this strip have and then lose one way or another. Methinks perhaps there is a bit of a double standard.
Gretchen's Mom over 13 years ago
Nabuquduriuzhur: I’ve seen postings like this from you before. Instead of living in such anger and bitterness where you are, have you thought about moving somewhere else where you’ll have better luck??? You don’t even have to leave the state of Oregon if you don’t want to. It’s a pretty big place so maybe you could try moving to a different city further away than your current one where the women might have a more different frame of mind than where you’re at right now.
Not all of us women are nothing but a bunch of drunk, slutty, party girls with STD’s and a different father for every child we have that doesn’t care about anything except ourselves and believe that the world revolves around us and ought to be catering to our every want/need/desire every minute of every day!!! Some of us actually do care about our families, our community, the environment, the bone-headed decisions politicians are making for/forcing on us, etc. So instead of sitting around and complaining, get off your rear-end and do something about it!!!!!
And btw — I married my sweet, kind, warm, loving, funny, generous husband 22 years ago because he was a good man with good, moral character … not in spite of it!!!!!
jenwithblueeyes over 13 years ago
Connie, been there, done that, wish I hadn’t, learned from it, rather enjoying singledom!!