No, Donna! Let his problem be his problem. It may sound cold, but it will best in the long run for him as well as for you. I fear you are just getting sucked in, entrapped, deeper and deeper….
I bet he honestly does need a ride. No stalking intended. But I agree with @Sisyphos that it’s his problem. Learn to be responsible, Michael babe! We’ll be rooting for you!
I’m torn between compassion and selfishness. On one hand, it’s good to help people in need. On the other hand, who wants to get stuck doing it ALL the time? Such people tend to always be needy, and the only real solution to that problem is to teach them self-sufficiency. But I don’t see her doing that either.
I’ve defended Michael before, because all we really know is that he is socially very awkward. However, lots of young women have been killed doing a favor like this for someone they don’t know well enough. (Ted Bundy could hardly be called creepy, for example.) Still, if this were the “real world” I’d tell Donna to lend him the money for bus fare. If you have to, tell him you’ll be running errands on the way home or you don’t feel comfortable giving rides to guys. Of course, Jen is the “goddess” of this world and what happens is what she wants to happen. I’m not worried about Donna.
I think he probably has Asperger’s Syndrome and is socially extremely awkward, but probably harmless. I don’t think he’s manipulative or going to be asking her for rides all the time if he’s used to taking the bus. Not everyone has a car, and a lot of people go everywhere on public transportation and normally wouldn’t dream of asking others for rides.
However, you never know! He could be a rapist or murderer, and she really doesn’t know him that well (and doesn’t want to). Like Ray C says, I’d tell him I was going somewhere afterwards or had a bunch of errands to run. She could lend him the money for the bus too if she wanted, just as long as he didn’t start asking her for loans constantly—if he started that she’d have to deal with it then.
If he does have AS he might have problems handling money, though not all Aspies do (some are very good at it, better than many non-autistic people.) But that’s not really Donna’s problem or something she needs to get into.
Where does he get money anyway? Has that ever been mentioned? Does he have a job, or is he on disability?
Tantor over 13 years ago
put him in the back seat!
Tantor over 13 years ago
or in the trunk! just kidding!
Sisyphos over 13 years ago
No, Donna! Let his problem be his problem. It may sound cold, but it will best in the long run for him as well as for you. I fear you are just getting sucked in, entrapped, deeper and deeper….
ladywyntre over 13 years ago
Okay, so why do we assume that Michael wants to stalk her? Also, Donna looks a little Monaish today. o.O
3hourtour Premium Member over 13 years ago
..showing him your chest,huh,Donna?…
Plods with ...™ over 13 years ago
Then walking back would be a good calorie burner
TheDOCTOR over 13 years ago
What do nerds like him call Snickers and Cheezits?…..A Balanced Breakfast!
my_discworld over 13 years ago
I bet he honestly does need a ride. No stalking intended. But I agree with @Sisyphos that it’s his problem. Learn to be responsible, Michael babe! We’ll be rooting for you!
EricAlder over 13 years ago
I’m torn between compassion and selfishness. On one hand, it’s good to help people in need. On the other hand, who wants to get stuck doing it ALL the time? Such people tend to always be needy, and the only real solution to that problem is to teach them self-sufficiency. But I don’t see her doing that either.
Ray_C over 13 years ago
I’ve defended Michael before, because all we really know is that he is socially very awkward. However, lots of young women have been killed doing a favor like this for someone they don’t know well enough. (Ted Bundy could hardly be called creepy, for example.) Still, if this were the “real world” I’d tell Donna to lend him the money for bus fare. If you have to, tell him you’ll be running errands on the way home or you don’t feel comfortable giving rides to guys. Of course, Jen is the “goddess” of this world and what happens is what she wants to happen. I’m not worried about Donna.
Snark-impaired over 13 years ago
I think he probably has Asperger’s Syndrome and is socially extremely awkward, but probably harmless. I don’t think he’s manipulative or going to be asking her for rides all the time if he’s used to taking the bus. Not everyone has a car, and a lot of people go everywhere on public transportation and normally wouldn’t dream of asking others for rides.
However, you never know! He could be a rapist or murderer, and she really doesn’t know him that well (and doesn’t want to). Like Ray C says, I’d tell him I was going somewhere afterwards or had a bunch of errands to run. She could lend him the money for the bus too if she wanted, just as long as he didn’t start asking her for loans constantly—if he started that she’d have to deal with it then.
If he does have AS he might have problems handling money, though not all Aspies do (some are very good at it, better than many non-autistic people.) But that’s not really Donna’s problem or something she needs to get into.
Where does he get money anyway? Has that ever been mentioned? Does he have a job, or is he on disability?
Thehag over 13 years ago
Wow this one hit some nerves. Guess a lot of us have dealt with this sort of situation before.