I always joked that when my daughter wanted something from me or wanted me to do something for her, she called me “Daddy”. At all other times, I was just “Dad”. She’s almost 52 and hasn’t changed.
My admittedly limited experience with this phenomenon is that children who want to call their parents by their first name are trying to establish or declare themselves social and intellectual equals to their parents, often as a repudiation of parental authority—either because of swollen egos (Gracie, anyone?) or a dysfunctional parent/child relationship. And in many cases “it’s just a phase.”
And sometimes the parent(s) ask to be called their names.
You can find many online articles discussing the syndrome, with no conclusive answers.
My daughter used to call me by my first name when she was in her late teens. She always meant it as an insult. Glad she is a mature adult now, late 20’s.
When my dad and I took over my former’ boss’s accounting practice and I was working with him, I would either call him by his first name or Mr. Lastname (to make us sound bigger) when a client was around who did not know that I was his daughter (many of them knew me since I was small child – and from the reaction of one or two of them when I came in to do their books seemed to expect me to still be a small child) and for when IRS, state tax and other third parties. I was married already and using my husband’s last name.
Then my husband and I started a handcrafted business and he had me using my maiden name – also to make us sound bigger than we were.
suv2000 about 1 year ago
You won’t he should just call you a generic term like daughter instead of your name
Cactus-Pete about 1 year ago
Right, because respect is now another thing that Gracie doesn’t understand.
myfb1955 about 1 year ago
Thankfully, I will not be around to read Baldo when this snotty girl comes home with her first tattoo.
cdward about 1 year ago
Well, technically it says “Father.” So maybe she should call him Father instead of Papi.
eced52 about 1 year ago
Yes, it is. I had it added when Baldo was born.
LawrenceS about 1 year ago
Never felt a desire to call my dad by his first name… Just got back after being with him and mom for their 71st anniversary. He’s still Dad.
DaBump Premium Member about 1 year ago
Gracie, you should be SO grateful to have such a good “Papi” these days! Any ordinary Jose can be a Sergio, but it takes someone special to be a Papi.
ladykat about 1 year ago
Respect your papi, Gracie
Linguist about 1 year ago
I always joked that when my daughter wanted something from me or wanted me to do something for her, she called me “Daddy”. At all other times, I was just “Dad”. She’s almost 52 and hasn’t changed.
LNER4472 Premium Member about 1 year ago
My admittedly limited experience with this phenomenon is that children who want to call their parents by their first name are trying to establish or declare themselves social and intellectual equals to their parents, often as a repudiation of parental authority—either because of swollen egos (Gracie, anyone?) or a dysfunctional parent/child relationship. And in many cases “it’s just a phase.”
And sometimes the parent(s) ask to be called their names.
You can find many online articles discussing the syndrome, with no conclusive answers.
locake about 1 year ago
My daughter used to call me by my first name when she was in her late teens. She always meant it as an insult. Glad she is a mature adult now, late 20’s.
TwilightFaze about 1 year ago
A for effort, papa bear! lol
Brent Rosenthal Premium Member about 1 year ago
If she wants to be fair she can start bringing home the money. Until then, it’s Papi. What a little snot she is!
mafastore about 1 year ago
When my dad and I took over my former’ boss’s accounting practice and I was working with him, I would either call him by his first name or Mr. Lastname (to make us sound bigger) when a client was around who did not know that I was his daughter (many of them knew me since I was small child – and from the reaction of one or two of them when I came in to do their books seemed to expect me to still be a small child) and for when IRS, state tax and other third parties. I was married already and using my husband’s last name.
Then my husband and I started a handcrafted business and he had me using my maiden name – also to make us sound bigger than we were.