Cathy Classics by Cathy Guisewite for March 05, 2015

Be careful what you wish for: your flowers and bridesmaids’ dresses may clash with his sports team colors. Although, a football or baseball stadium could make a really cute groom’s cake for the reception.

C’mon Cathy, this is a good thing! Irving is just like my husband in that he never thought about what things he wanted for a wedding. This meant I could do whatever I wanted (running it by him first to make sure he was okay with it, and obviously nothing wild because I’m pretty traditional). This is much easier than trying to mix your “vision” with his and your mother’s (because you know she has a strong opinion). To quote Frozen, “let it go!” Cathy…And emjaycee has it right – you can incorporate whatever he wants into the groom’s cake or use his favorite color with the theme.

Hello Cathy friends! I’m suffering though what I hope is the last cold of the season…ugh (sniff) Hope everyone else is warm and healthy!

Someone’s sleeping on the couch tonight!

I agree emjaycee and lightenup, most men don’t care about the details and if they did most women would just ignore them anyway! All my honey needs to do is pick the tux and show up for the fittings and the ceremony.

Hello Cathy friends! I’m also suffering with a cold and chronic migraines and I have a midterm tonight. Hope the rest of you are warm and pain free!

Cathy, just because you started planning your wedding from the time you were old enough to know what a wedding was (and your mother started planning it from the time she heard, “Congratulations; it’s a girl!”), that doesn’t mean that Irving did. Men aren’t raised to be as obsessed with getting married as you are (and from what I’ve heard, neither are most women, actually!).

I wouldn’t want my fiancé to have any preconceived notions about what he wanted in a wedding since I have had mine planned to the last detail for most of my life. If I ever get married, it has to be EXACTLY as I want it. The groom is interchangeable but the wedding details are not!

If Irving did have any ideas, Cathy, like most women, would ignore them & do what she wanted.

Thanks, sis!! I think you’re online right now bc your comment is only about a minute old… HI!!!!!! I hope you are warm and get through this winter with your sanity intact. This winter sure is a doozy! Hugs!!

While my husband was by my side every single moment helping me plan our wedding down to the last detail, he didn’t have any particularly strong thoughts and feelings about it one way or the other so he was more than happy to go along with whatever lifetime of hopes, dreams and plans that I had always wanted for my wedding day. Even back then, he was very wise to recognize the truth in the old “happy wife, happy life” expression and because of that “knowledge,” things have been going great between us ever since (LOL) (j/k) (no, I’m not) (Ha! Ha! Ha!)!!!!! ;-)

Hi, rgcviper!

lightenup & QuietStorm27: So sorry to hear you’re both so under the weather like that. Hope you’re feeling better soon!

JiminNYC: Sounds like things sure have changed a lot since I got married over 25 years ago. Back then, wedding planning was traditionally the responsibility of the bride and her parents with no input from the groom’s family whatsoever (pretty much all they had to do was just show up at the right time and place for the ceremony and that was it). Now mother’s of the groom are allowed to take over and plan things the way they want instead of what the bridal couple want??? If that were me planning a wedding today with a mother (or mother-in-law-to-be) like that, I’d have to elope and leave the psycho parents at home!!! No, I wouldn’t get the wedding I had always wanted, but it sure would be a whole lot less stressful that way if I did though.

Hello and Happy Thursday, fellow Cathy fans. Still trying to dig our way out from underneath another 12"-13" snowfall we had last night here in Southern Indiana where I live. Hope everyone’s having a better relationship with Mother Nature this winter where you are than we’ve had so far! ;-)

Ours was planned – inasmuch as we bought the rings, decided what to wear and turned up on the day we had booked. We said the words in front of family and a few friends and signed the register. And that was it!

It’s a different world today.

lightenup *QuietStorm27 * I hope you both recover real soon – like by morning. Guess in some ways I am normal – did not care about the ceremony at all although my wife and her mother did let me know what they had planned and asked me if it was ok. Don’t recall ever not agreeing with anything they decided. I showed up on time, she was late. My best man and the pastor were getting worried – I wasn’t at all. I knew her quite well by then.

Feel better lightenup and quietstorm — I’m so far fighting a cold off — I hope I can continue.My first husband was the one who wanted the traditional wedding and boy was it a pain. For my second marriage we called my Dad and brother the night before the ceremony at the local JP and told them to be there if they wanted to see us get married. Everybody showed up, we all went out to dinner later and a good time was had by all. Oh yeah, they threw rice at me as I left work to go to the courthouse :)

Sigh …

HI, MOM. Good luck unearthing all the snow.

Hello, Clan. Feel better, all.