Writing for Lawrence was much more difficult than writing for Connie. As a single mother, I had gone through the same situations as her. I had a strong sense of what she was going through. Coming up with light-hearted quips, while dealing with a serious situation, saved this storyline from becoming maudlin and preachy. As in all great personal upheavals, a sense of humour is essential–the best tool in your survival pack!
And just how willing would YOU be to give up the family name that you had lived with and held as your identity your entire life? Even women don’t necessarily do that anymore upon getting married!
If he were a baby, it would be different. At mid-childhood, kids have an identity. No reason he needs to be “adopted”. His stepfather should try to be a good friend and not try to replace his Dad.
yeah…that’s not how it works in reality. step-“parents” do not normally adopt the step-kids. There’s no reason to. They are guardians, sure, but that’s it.
It is a nice thing that his feelings are being considered in this decision. If it’s forced it will always be a source of pain and betrayal. If he is allowed to come to it he will be much happier.
My ex and I adopted some of our foster kids, the older ones got to choose their names, son changed his whole name and oldest daughter just changed her middle name. My two youngest we choose to change one’s middle name and the other ones whole name.
Which of the following, for years, provided Lawrence with food, clothes, books, shelter, upbringing, education, electricity? Was it…a.) Some deadbeat dad?b.) LGBT organizations?c.) Greg and Connie?
Exactly how is making numerous sacrifices for a child “hate”?
In 5 states a child over 10 cannot be adopted without their consent. According to my research, the person who speaks for them before the age of 10, 12, or 14 is supposed to speak for them. Lawrence barely seems to know the new stepsisters, so how is he supposed to deal with him being given equality with his mother under the law? And Lawrence spent 1 night in a coffee shop after both the mother and stepfather realized they had no idea where he was, and by the next day the mann had realized that what counted was that Lawrence was a good man. He knew he had wronged him. It is on his face and in his hand, reaching for Lawrence’s.
Sounds like the old newspaper ad:“Kids, tired of dealing with your intolerant parents? Move out! Get a job, pay your own bills! Do it now, while you still know everything!”
Squizzums almost 9 years ago
Score one for outdated patriarchal systems.
Can't Sleep almost 9 years ago
Good for him. He is who he is, to paraphrase Popeye.
masnadies almost 9 years ago
She almost looks proud in the last part. That’s a tough situation. Sounds like everyone is doing the best they can.
Atewl almost 9 years ago
Lynn’s Notes:
Writing for Lawrence was much more difficult than writing for Connie. As a single mother, I had gone through the same situations as her. I had a strong sense of what she was going through. Coming up with light-hearted quips, while dealing with a serious situation, saved this storyline from becoming maudlin and preachy. As in all great personal upheavals, a sense of humour is essential–the best tool in your survival pack!
legaleagle48 almost 9 years ago
And just how willing would YOU be to give up the family name that you had lived with and held as your identity your entire life? Even women don’t necessarily do that anymore upon getting married!
dlkrueger33 almost 9 years ago
If he were a baby, it would be different. At mid-childhood, kids have an identity. No reason he needs to be “adopted”. His stepfather should try to be a good friend and not try to replace his Dad.
nickel_penny almost 9 years ago
yeah…that’s not how it works in reality. step-“parents” do not normally adopt the step-kids. There’s no reason to. They are guardians, sure, but that’s it.
Mr. Blawt almost 9 years ago
It is a nice thing that his feelings are being considered in this decision. If it’s forced it will always be a source of pain and betrayal. If he is allowed to come to it he will be much happier.
ibjuliebk almost 9 years ago
My ex and I adopted some of our foster kids, the older ones got to choose their names, son changed his whole name and oldest daughter just changed her middle name. My two youngest we choose to change one’s middle name and the other ones whole name.
AnnDeeQ almost 9 years ago
Greg can’t replace Lawrence’s dad, as his dad was never in the picture.
USN1977 almost 9 years ago
Which of the following, for years, provided Lawrence with food, clothes, books, shelter, upbringing, education, electricity? Was it…a.) Some deadbeat dad?b.) LGBT organizations?c.) Greg and Connie?
Exactly how is making numerous sacrifices for a child “hate”?
kattbailey almost 9 years ago
In 5 states a child over 10 cannot be adopted without their consent. According to my research, the person who speaks for them before the age of 10, 12, or 14 is supposed to speak for them. Lawrence barely seems to know the new stepsisters, so how is he supposed to deal with him being given equality with his mother under the law? And Lawrence spent 1 night in a coffee shop after both the mother and stepfather realized they had no idea where he was, and by the next day the mann had realized that what counted was that Lawrence was a good man. He knew he had wronged him. It is on his face and in his hand, reaching for Lawrence’s.
USN1977 almost 9 years ago
Sounds like the old newspaper ad:“Kids, tired of dealing with your intolerant parents? Move out! Get a job, pay your own bills! Do it now, while you still know everything!”