I am a big believer in the book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. One of the habits is, “Seek first to understand and then be understood.”
When we hear something with which we disagree, or first reaction is, “Red Alert! Shields up! Arm photon torpedoes. Lock phasers on target.” Our ears are hearing but our mind is working overtime on the counter-attack. “As soon as he shuts his mouth, I’m going down it with both feet.”
The only way to make the habit work is to concentrate on the word “understand.” You have to understand what the other person is saying: you do NOT have to agree.
One of the many communication courses I took provided me with a statistic: in 40% of disagreement there is merely a difference of understanding and not a difference of opinion.
If you can eliminate 40% of your conflicts merely by listening, then it’s worth giving it a shot.
On the other hand, once you understand someone, you then have proof that they are an idiot and they have probably given you all the ammunition you need to refute their point.
It’s worth going into a conversation with an open mind. However, when listening to things like Fox news, the B. S. piles up faster than I can shovel it off the doorstep.
Whew, what ranting and raving. I hope you all feel better now. Me, if someone tries to put me down, I simply ignore the attempts. I will not let others make me feel less of a person.
Cornelius Noodleman almost 2 years ago
I get pre-annoyed just before I read your comic.
PraiseofFolly almost 2 years ago
Aunty is mighty touchy. She looks forward to constant verbal fencing with others, to the thrill of each “Touché”. She thus starts each day “en garde.”
nosirrom almost 2 years ago
I refer to that as a snit.
FreyjaRN Premium Member almost 2 years ago
Whenever I watch the news, I get that way. Well, NHK-World news isn’t as bad.
The Reader Premium Member almost 2 years ago
It’s good to get a head start!
Calvinist1966 almost 2 years ago
Pre-emptive p!ss offs.
Bill The Nuke almost 2 years ago
Yes, every time management called for a meeting.
dflak almost 2 years ago
I am a big believer in the book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. One of the habits is, “Seek first to understand and then be understood.”
When we hear something with which we disagree, or first reaction is, “Red Alert! Shields up! Arm photon torpedoes. Lock phasers on target.” Our ears are hearing but our mind is working overtime on the counter-attack. “As soon as he shuts his mouth, I’m going down it with both feet.”
The only way to make the habit work is to concentrate on the word “understand.” You have to understand what the other person is saying: you do NOT have to agree.
One of the many communication courses I took provided me with a statistic: in 40% of disagreement there is merely a difference of understanding and not a difference of opinion.
If you can eliminate 40% of your conflicts merely by listening, then it’s worth giving it a shot.
On the other hand, once you understand someone, you then have proof that they are an idiot and they have probably given you all the ammunition you need to refute their point.
It’s worth going into a conversation with an open mind. However, when listening to things like Fox news, the B. S. piles up faster than I can shovel it off the doorstep.
ladykat Premium Member almost 2 years ago
I get that feeling, Aunty.
goboboyd almost 2 years ago
Sometimes you just enjoy simmering ‘In A Mood’. Barely off the boil. But still letting off a little steam.
cuzinron47 almost 2 years ago
When I see someone with that reputation, I relocate.
crash3289. almost 2 years ago
Answer: NO!
Moonkey Premium Member almost 2 years ago
I don’t walk around looking to make myself happy by starting an argument or getting into one. I would go with cuzinron47 – move on, avoid the hassle.
stairsteppublishing almost 2 years ago
Whew, what ranting and raving. I hope you all feel better now. Me, if someone tries to put me down, I simply ignore the attempts. I will not let others make me feel less of a person.
aussie399 Premium Member over 1 year ago
How the bloody he’ll can you pre order or pre book something??You either order or book or you don’t!Annoyingly pedants like me.