Many years ago after maybe six months of being married, my young wife woke up with a start, after a few moments she snuggled up next to me and sighed. A very few moments later she pushed herself away and hauled off and hit me! Whatever it was I did in her dream that made her mad and caused her to wake up, she remembered! Tru story!
Maybe not so much that we don’t remember it, but because we realized that it was “small stuff” and not worth making a big issue of it. And for stuff that is not so little, we have learned that angry, heated words don’t ever solve a problem and they usually make it much worse. So, we find ways to talk through the problem — listening to each other. By “respectfully” listening to all the different points of view, we either discover that one point of view is the right one [tricky, because that means one of us must admit we were wrong or mistaken]. Or we find a way to compromise that all of us can accept.
In 1950, the psychoanalyst Erik H. Erikson, in a famous treatise on the phases of life development, identified wisdom as a likely, but not inevitable, byproduct of growing older.
“You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.” Winston Churchill
Most of the time, the only person I get mad at is myself …… especially when I go to Town for something ……. and get back , only to realize that I got everything “BUT” what I went for in the first place ….. ;)
yoey1957 8 months ago
Many years ago after maybe six months of being married, my young wife woke up with a start, after a few moments she snuggled up next to me and sighed. A very few moments later she pushed herself away and hauled off and hit me! Whatever it was I did in her dream that made her mad and caused her to wake up, she remembered! Tru story!
juicebruce 8 months ago
PraiseofFolly 8 months ago
And yet, some people are pushing age limits for those in political office … (—
GreenT267 8 months ago
Maybe not so much that we don’t remember it, but because we realized that it was “small stuff” and not worth making a big issue of it. And for stuff that is not so little, we have learned that angry, heated words don’t ever solve a problem and they usually make it much worse. So, we find ways to talk through the problem — listening to each other. By “respectfully” listening to all the different points of view, we either discover that one point of view is the right one [tricky, because that means one of us must admit we were wrong or mistaken]. Or we find a way to compromise that all of us can accept.
In 1950, the psychoanalyst Erik H. Erikson, in a famous treatise on the phases of life development, identified wisdom as a likely, but not inevitable, byproduct of growing older.
“You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.” Winston Churchill
ladykat 8 months ago
True.
Zen-of-Zinfandel 8 months ago
Wife ate the last Snickers bar.
g04922 8 months ago
It’s great, innit??
Plumb.Bob Premium Member 8 months ago
There are two rules in life. 1. Don’t sweat the small stuff. 2. It is all small stuff.
andersjg Premium Member 8 months ago
Doesn’t have time to sweat the small stuff.
bwswolf 8 months ago
Most of the time, the only person I get mad at is myself …… especially when I go to Town for something ……. and get back , only to realize that I got everything “BUT” what I went for in the first place ….. ;)
Frer Squirrel 8 months ago
I want to remember it, for the Sacrament of Reconciliation, where Jesus unites the big and small stuff to the cross, making all things Good.
Lady Bri 8 months ago
I wish that were true. I know one “plugger” who does sweat the small stuff and doesn’t forgive. :(
eddi-TBH 8 months ago
I’ll remember it again at about 3 AM. And not get back to sleep.