Aren’t there 2 dressers in most bedrooms? Even when we had to turn sideways to walk across the bedroom, he had a Tallboy and I had a chest of drawers. He’s tall and I’m not so we didn’t share the tops of our dressers.
I have an old two-drawer filing cabinet that’s my dresser. Wife has an entire wall lined with them, plus two sets of shelving piled with clothes. The bills are paperless and come to my email. Oh, yeah. Forgot to mention, the top of my dresser is covered with house plants.
Letting one spouse handle the finances and the other one just hand over >75% of their income (or more) very often doesn’t end well unless they’re both going over the bills very, very, very carefully. Consider yourself warned.
I refuse to do autopay for several reasons. One, as others have mentioned, is that a mistake by the bank could be catastrophic. Even if the bank doesn’t make a mistake, I may not have enough money in the account at a certain time to automatically pay the bills. I have enough money, usually, but the timing often doesn’t match up. (Have to wait a couple of days for the deposit to come in, for instance). But what I do is use my bank’s bill pay feature. I am still in control, and I can put in future dates if I like so that everything is paid on time. (But I still allow for possible mistakes.) If something happens that I don’t have enough money, I can still “juggle” a little without overdrawing my account. I also get my bills on paper. Since I have chronic illnesses, if I were to go into the hospital unexpectedly and not get out in time to do financial stuff, paper bills would enable my sister or brother to pay my bills (with my money, of course) without having to access my on-line accounts. I also have the dates for things that don’t have a paper bill (such as the rent) written on my calendar for my reference and anyone else’s. I guess the point is that depending on how much free money one has, or life and health circumstances, a “one-size-fits-all” policy of using autopay is not always good. Those who trust it and have extra money to move around can certainly benefit from it. Those of us who don’t must do things differently. (And may I add that I once was able to pay bills the minute they came in. That was changed when I was suddenly and unexpectedly disabled from a work injury and my income was cut to less than half, since I usually worked two jobs. I am grateful for what I have now, and that I am still functional enough to live a fairly normal life.)
BrendaStefka over 5 years ago
My husband gives all the bills to me.
Templo S.U.D. over 5 years ago
Think again, Dr. Patterson, of where you put the bills.
LeeCox over 5 years ago
Touchée, Elly!
The Pro from Dover over 5 years ago
Elly?
Enter.Name.Here over 5 years ago
“Yours, mine ….. and ours. Happy Father’s Day, Elly….”
Alondra over 5 years ago
Good luck getting her to pay them John.
HappyDog/ᵀʳʸ ᴮᵒᶻᵒ ⁴ ᵗʰᵉ ᶠᵘⁿ ᵒᶠ ᶦᵗ Premium Member over 5 years ago
Did they just move in together yesterday?
8ec23d5228da33aa2115003c92d0fe83 over 5 years ago
I pay the bills. I don’t want automatic access to my bank account and I like to see what the expenses are.
moosemin over 5 years ago
Hooray John!
tripwire45 over 5 years ago
I keep my wallet and keys in my hat on my desk. My wife keeps her purse on the kitchen counter. Works.
Grutzi over 5 years ago
Aren’t there 2 dressers in most bedrooms? Even when we had to turn sideways to walk across the bedroom, he had a Tallboy and I had a chest of drawers. He’s tall and I’m not so we didn’t share the tops of our dressers.
david_42 over 5 years ago
I have an old two-drawer filing cabinet that’s my dresser. Wife has an entire wall lined with them, plus two sets of shelving piled with clothes. The bills are paperless and come to my email. Oh, yeah. Forgot to mention, the top of my dresser is covered with house plants.
micromos over 5 years ago
John should know better.
Jan C over 5 years ago
The bedroom dresser isn’t the place for the bills.
Linguist over 5 years ago
Unpaid bills belong on the refrigerator attached with a magnet. Paid bills go into a shoebox. Doesn’t everybody do this?
Train 1911 over 5 years ago
Love your comment John
Display over 5 years ago
Letting one spouse handle the finances and the other one just hand over >75% of their income (or more) very often doesn’t end well unless they’re both going over the bills very, very, very carefully. Consider yourself warned.
dwdl21 over 5 years ago
Ell needs to get out more, maybe go back to the old coffee houses and mellow out. lol
sheashea over 5 years ago
Why are the bills in the bedroom???
finnygirl Premium Member over 5 years ago
I refuse to do autopay for several reasons. One, as others have mentioned, is that a mistake by the bank could be catastrophic. Even if the bank doesn’t make a mistake, I may not have enough money in the account at a certain time to automatically pay the bills. I have enough money, usually, but the timing often doesn’t match up. (Have to wait a couple of days for the deposit to come in, for instance). But what I do is use my bank’s bill pay feature. I am still in control, and I can put in future dates if I like so that everything is paid on time. (But I still allow for possible mistakes.) If something happens that I don’t have enough money, I can still “juggle” a little without overdrawing my account. I also get my bills on paper. Since I have chronic illnesses, if I were to go into the hospital unexpectedly and not get out in time to do financial stuff, paper bills would enable my sister or brother to pay my bills (with my money, of course) without having to access my on-line accounts. I also have the dates for things that don’t have a paper bill (such as the rent) written on my calendar for my reference and anyone else’s. I guess the point is that depending on how much free money one has, or life and health circumstances, a “one-size-fits-all” policy of using autopay is not always good. Those who trust it and have extra money to move around can certainly benefit from it. Those of us who don’t must do things differently. (And may I add that I once was able to pay bills the minute they came in. That was changed when I was suddenly and unexpectedly disabled from a work injury and my income was cut to less than half, since I usually worked two jobs. I am grateful for what I have now, and that I am still functional enough to live a fairly normal life.)
BlitzMcD over 5 years ago
Touche!
heathcliff2 over 5 years ago
She is politically opposed to photographs (snaps for those politically opposed to 1’s and 0’s).
howtheduck over 5 years ago
Elly has lost her mind. What’s hers is hers and what’s his is hers. He has no side of the dresser. That’s just misleading poor John.
Le'Roy Hawkins over 5 years ago
Those will never get paid.