Stupidly, I will sometimes lie awake at night obsessing over some ultimately inconsequential social faux pas I committed 1-4 decades ago.
And the really stupid thing is that I couldn’t tell you what any of them were: I don’t even remember them until I’m on the edge of sleep, whereupon they’re as fresh in my mind like they were yesterday.
Ouch. Terrible advice. I don’t know whether this works for anyone, but it doesn’t for me, and I really don’t recommend it. Thinking the details of problems through is what keeps me awake at three in the morning. It’s when I distract my brain into forgetting the problems that I get to sleep.
Hubby had been through four bank mergers. He told me he put all of his problems into a “box”, closes the flaps and then mentally throws in up in the air. “God can handle it. He’s up all night anyway, and I figure He can work better if I take my hands off of it.”
The trick is to bore yourself to sleep. Describe, in words but silently, what you see with your eyes closed. It’s like watching clouds. It doesn’t take long before your mind has enough and chucks it.
I have read several times that it was normal, back some time ago, to have first sleep and second sleep, where you get up and do things in the middle of the night. It was even mentioned by Shakespeare.
I’ve mentioned before my method: I close my eyes and breathe slowly and deeply. While inhaling I think of a color. While exhaling I imagine a field of flowers in that color. Red, roses. Orange, poppies. Purple, pansies. Yellow, sunflowers. Green, some sort of green flowers (not much detail in the field). I don’t last long.
Most or all of the above methods are a form of self-hypnosis. How I started was to pick a word, like “Omm”, then, “chanting” the word and when breathing in, try to relax. Then, when breathing out, try to sink deeper. Later, I found that thinking about something enjoyable from my life would have the same effect. In my case, it was going over the games I played in one of the Chess Tournaments I won or finished highly in. I rarely get to the last game before I’m asleep.
Does anyone else listen to audio books to go to sleep by? It’s not that I don’t like audio books, I love them! It’s kind of like going to sleep in front of the TV.
I watch an episode of Big Bang theory and then i roll over and I go right to sleep. don’t know why it works but it does. then I sleep for 9 hours with one quick trip around 5 am.
Sounds like a FMEA meeting. Failure Mode and Effects Analysis meeting here at General Motors. Fifteen minutes into one most of the participants were sound asleep.
I have found that God really does answer prayer: every night I say “Now I lay me down to sleep; I pray the Lord my soul to keep…” and I have yet—over many years of effort—to finish my prayers for the night. Also, it used to drive my wife nuts when my Dad would say, “I don’t have any trouble sleeping; I sleep the sleep of the innocents”
My Mother use to tell me Never tell a man your problems, then youll have more. Sorry Gentlemen but she was right. All the ones I’ve dealt with gave me more problems.
Put TV on so low that can hear talking, but not who or what is being said. I recite the times tables in my head and then do so backwards. Then onto the the monarchs of England/Great Britain. Then the US Presidents. Then the US President’s wives (which is not the same as the US First ladies as some First Ladies were not President’s wives and some President’s wives were not First Ladies. Then US states and their capitals alphabetically. if still awake – by geography from NE to Hawaii. If still awake do each category in reverse order. If still awake – I give up as it will soon be time to wake up anyway.
alasko about 3 years ago
The process is the journey.
wjones about 3 years ago
I think I would just watch a good show on TV. Always puts me to sleep.
Da'Dad about 3 years ago
My lie awake time is the morning. I rethink what is undone from yesterday.
CanuckAmuck about 3 years ago
Stupidly, I will sometimes lie awake at night obsessing over some ultimately inconsequential social faux pas I committed 1-4 decades ago.
And the really stupid thing is that I couldn’t tell you what any of them were: I don’t even remember them until I’m on the edge of sleep, whereupon they’re as fresh in my mind like they were yesterday.
nosirrom about 3 years ago
Just watch Elementary. Jonny Lee Miller’s voice puts my wife asleep every time.
COL Crash about 3 years ago
Well Arlo you’ll need to have your batteries fully charged to implement the chosen Course of Action anyway you go.
fredd13 about 3 years ago
Ouch. Terrible advice. I don’t know whether this works for anyone, but it doesn’t for me, and I really don’t recommend it. Thinking the details of problems through is what keeps me awake at three in the morning. It’s when I distract my brain into forgetting the problems that I get to sleep.
ncrist about 3 years ago
I once tried to count to infinity. Slept really well.
djtenltd about 3 years ago
With all that, it SHOULD put him to sleep!
Milady Meg about 3 years ago
I’d be out by the time I got to a couple of possible solutions.
MRBLUESKY529 about 3 years ago
Just reading Arlo’s explanation is making me sleepy.
NeedaChuckle Premium Member about 3 years ago
I wake up worrying about things outside my ability to resolve. Usually they resolve themselves but I can’t help but worry.
Dani Rice about 3 years ago
Hubby had been through four bank mergers. He told me he put all of his problems into a “box”, closes the flaps and then mentally throws in up in the air. “God can handle it. He’s up all night anyway, and I figure He can work better if I take my hands off of it.”
someotherotherguy about 3 years ago
The trick is to bore yourself to sleep. Describe, in words but silently, what you see with your eyes closed. It’s like watching clouds. It doesn’t take long before your mind has enough and chucks it.
jarvisloop about 3 years ago
I use Douglas Adams’ approach, and I am always calm.
Nearly everything about which I could worry is actually an SEP (somebody else’s problem).
exness Premium Member about 3 years ago
I have read several times that it was normal, back some time ago, to have first sleep and second sleep, where you get up and do things in the middle of the night. It was even mentioned by Shakespeare.
ScullyUFO about 3 years ago
Pandemania.
flagmichael about 3 years ago
I’ve mentioned before my method: I close my eyes and breathe slowly and deeply. While inhaling I think of a color. While exhaling I imagine a field of flowers in that color. Red, roses. Orange, poppies. Purple, pansies. Yellow, sunflowers. Green, some sort of green flowers (not much detail in the field). I don’t last long.
ChessPirate about 3 years ago
Most or all of the above methods are a form of self-hypnosis. How I started was to pick a word, like “Omm”, then, “chanting” the word and when breathing in, try to relax. Then, when breathing out, try to sink deeper. Later, I found that thinking about something enjoyable from my life would have the same effect. In my case, it was going over the games I played in one of the Chess Tournaments I won or finished highly in. I rarely get to the last game before I’m asleep.
Lemon Juice about 3 years ago
Does anyone else listen to audio books to go to sleep by? It’s not that I don’t like audio books, I love them! It’s kind of like going to sleep in front of the TV.
petermerck about 3 years ago
I don’t really have problems that keep me awake. It’s reviewing all the past screwups that do it.
formathe about 3 years ago
I watch an episode of Big Bang theory and then i roll over and I go right to sleep. don’t know why it works but it does. then I sleep for 9 hours with one quick trip around 5 am.
flushed about 3 years ago
Sounds like a FMEA meeting. Failure Mode and Effects Analysis meeting here at General Motors. Fifteen minutes into one most of the participants were sound asleep.
FassEddie about 3 years ago
I just listen to a podcast or two and resolve to deal with it in the morning.
LoneDog about 3 years ago
Sleeping comes naturally to me. I could do it with my eyes closed.
Fontessa about 3 years ago
My husband and Arlo know each other!
William Bednar Premium Member about 3 years ago
Trust Arlo to come up with the right solution.
ron about 3 years ago
I fell asleep reading Arlo’s explanation. Guess that was the point.
cuzinron47 about 3 years ago
Falls asleep every time by boring himself.
donwestonmysteries about 3 years ago
Nearly put me to sleep just listening.
Chuck2Carol Premium Member about 3 years ago
I have found that God really does answer prayer: every night I say “Now I lay me down to sleep; I pray the Lord my soul to keep…” and I have yet—over many years of effort—to finish my prayers for the night. Also, it used to drive my wife nuts when my Dad would say, “I don’t have any trouble sleeping; I sleep the sleep of the innocents”
David Huie Green LoveJoyAndPeace about 3 years ago
“… works like a knockout drug.”
Night-Gaunt49[Bozo is Boffo] about 3 years ago
Stop worrying, if you can’t change it then why worry? Wasting time and sleep for worrying is a wonderful way of doing nothing.
raybarb44 about 3 years ago
Beats counting sheep….
annefackler61 about 3 years ago
My Mother use to tell me Never tell a man your problems, then youll have more. Sorry Gentlemen but she was right. All the ones I’ve dealt with gave me more problems.
ktrabbit about 3 years ago
Sounds to me like a good way to lie awake with your brain spinning circles. No thanks.
mafastore almost 3 years ago
Put TV on so low that can hear talking, but not who or what is being said. I recite the times tables in my head and then do so backwards. Then onto the the monarchs of England/Great Britain. Then the US Presidents. Then the US President’s wives (which is not the same as the US First ladies as some First Ladies were not President’s wives and some President’s wives were not First Ladies. Then US states and their capitals alphabetically. if still awake – by geography from NE to Hawaii. If still awake do each category in reverse order. If still awake – I give up as it will soon be time to wake up anyway.