This house, just this past Wednesday, had two steps. Now there are 7 of them and that has to be close to a 45-degree incline. Is it possible the house doesn’t want to be moved into and is growing new steps? With this couple, I might be on the house’s side.
Yes, moving is always hard. I was furious with my husband when he gave away our sofa and our son’s bed when they wouldn’t in into the moving truck. Knowing his style and tendency to rush, I told him he could have reorganized to make room for them – after all we brought them from our other house in the same size of moving truck – it would fit again in the next move in the same size truck. He just did not want to reorganize and gave them away. We bought the boys a bunk bed and rented the couch at our new apartment. He complained about the couch rental – told him it was his punishment for giving a perfectly good couch set. Well, we moved again and at the new house, we did buy a new couch set – which we gave to our son when he stayed when we bought a new house and bought yet another new couch – a sectional this time. Ha. Honestly, he has to be supervised when moving to make sure nothing is given away, and thankfully it seems we won’t be moving any time soon – been in this house for 10 years now.
Hate moving, still haven’t recovered from our recent move, which was about 10 months ago. But we also had a lot of renovation work after the move, so some area’s are still a mess, and we still have a lot of work ahead to make it all right. But we’re getting there, slowly but surely. Plan to stay here untill i’m very old…..next move will be to the old folks home.
During one of our moves we had a lot of volunteers to help…until the actual day. My brother & his sons were excused because my brother was in the army & that weekend was a mandatory attendance thing, but most of the others didn’t have as good a reason. Our favorite was the guy who literally said, “I’d rather go skiing.” A few months later he needed to move & asked us to help. My husband said, “I’d rather rearrange my sock drawer.” (Side note: we ended up with just 2 helpers: one woman who just had surgery and couldn’t lift a lot, and a woman who wasn’t able to lift a lot.)
I’m not “liking” your comment because I “like” it, ktfahel – but because I can so totally relate. Believe me, after my most recent move, I took notes on who was there for me (and who wasn’t). Revenge is a dish best served cold.
Phil should take Elly, John, and Elizabeth to dinner after the move is over. He owes them at least that much for them volunteering their time and muscle power for this ordeal.
The first of those stress factors (death) was confirmed by research findings published in the early ‘70s. If I remember correctly, the article was in the AMA Journal. I could be wrong about the source (and if it wasn’t the AMA Journal, it was Psychology Today), but I distinctly remember that the #1 biggest trigger for stress according to those findings was the death of a spouse. Sadly, several decades later, I found that out that their findings were true……
C.S. Lewis, a confirmed bachelor for most of his life, saw quarreling as a sign of true love. “How to fight fair” is an important marriage skill, i.e., arguing without hurting your partner. Demeaning names are a really bad idea, for instance, but expressing why you are angry is good. Holding a grudge over past wrongs is a really bad idea – but it is important to bring up current wrongs (so they don’t become a long term grudge).
Templo S.U.D. almost 6 years ago
Oh, I so don’t want to see that, John.
howtheduck almost 6 years ago
This house, just this past Wednesday, had two steps. Now there are 7 of them and that has to be close to a 45-degree incline. Is it possible the house doesn’t want to be moved into and is growing new steps? With this couple, I might be on the house’s side.
Rosette almost 6 years ago
Don’t Georgia and her husband divorce later on?
capricorn9th almost 6 years ago
Yes, moving is always hard. I was furious with my husband when he gave away our sofa and our son’s bed when they wouldn’t in into the moving truck. Knowing his style and tendency to rush, I told him he could have reorganized to make room for them – after all we brought them from our other house in the same size of moving truck – it would fit again in the next move in the same size truck. He just did not want to reorganize and gave them away. We bought the boys a bunk bed and rented the couch at our new apartment. He complained about the couch rental – told him it was his punishment for giving a perfectly good couch set. Well, we moved again and at the new house, we did buy a new couch set – which we gave to our son when he stayed when we bought a new house and bought yet another new couch – a sectional this time. Ha. Honestly, he has to be supervised when moving to make sure nothing is given away, and thankfully it seems we won’t be moving any time soon – been in this house for 10 years now.
Gizmo Cat almost 6 years ago
Hate moving, still haven’t recovered from our recent move, which was about 10 months ago. But we also had a lot of renovation work after the move, so some area’s are still a mess, and we still have a lot of work ahead to make it all right. But we’re getting there, slowly but surely. Plan to stay here untill i’m very old…..next move will be to the old folks home.
jpayne4040 almost 6 years ago
Phil was stupid about this whole move! I don’t blame Georgia for being angry!
Geophyzz almost 6 years ago
John forgot to mention hanging wallpaper. That has to rank high on the scale of stressful events.
Wren Fahel almost 6 years ago
During one of our moves we had a lot of volunteers to help…until the actual day. My brother & his sons were excused because my brother was in the army & that weekend was a mandatory attendance thing, but most of the others didn’t have as good a reason. Our favorite was the guy who literally said, “I’d rather go skiing.” A few months later he needed to move & asked us to help. My husband said, “I’d rather rearrange my sock drawer.” (Side note: we ended up with just 2 helpers: one woman who just had surgery and couldn’t lift a lot, and a woman who wasn’t able to lift a lot.)
pony21 Premium Member almost 6 years ago
I’m not “liking” your comment because I “like” it, ktfahel – but because I can so totally relate. Believe me, after my most recent move, I took notes on who was there for me (and who wasn’t). Revenge is a dish best served cold.
USN1977 almost 6 years ago
Phil should take Elly, John, and Elizabeth to dinner after the move is over. He owes them at least that much for them volunteering their time and muscle power for this ordeal.
dmschmeling almost 6 years ago
She forgot wallpapering, that is supposed to be a real test of working together.
gigagrouch almost 6 years ago
Sure-fire way to start an argument: "I TOLD you so!
rshive almost 6 years ago
Well yeah. Renting a U-Haul would certainly made going up the steps with the piano easier.
OldIndy almost 6 years ago
So…putting plastic covering over the mattresses was out of the question? Or even blankets?
Linguist almost 6 years ago
I can deal with the death and divorce parts…
gingermilleragn almost 6 years ago
There’s NO way they moved that piano…
BlitzMcD almost 6 years ago
The first of those stress factors (death) was confirmed by research findings published in the early ‘70s. If I remember correctly, the article was in the AMA Journal. I could be wrong about the source (and if it wasn’t the AMA Journal, it was Psychology Today), but I distinctly remember that the #1 biggest trigger for stress according to those findings was the death of a spouse. Sadly, several decades later, I found that out that their findings were true……
stuart almost 6 years ago
C.S. Lewis, a confirmed bachelor for most of his life, saw quarreling as a sign of true love. “How to fight fair” is an important marriage skill, i.e., arguing without hurting your partner. Demeaning names are a really bad idea, for instance, but expressing why you are angry is good. Holding a grudge over past wrongs is a really bad idea – but it is important to bring up current wrongs (so they don’t become a long term grudge).