When I was a kid and even to this day, I’ve always had trouble looking people in the eye.I have to force myself to do that at times… Don’t know why. It’s just my nature & the way I as raised.
There’s nothing to base a conversation on with a ships passing in the night, or day. But if i see someone looking at something in walmart that befits a comment, i will.
People think I’m looking them in the eye when I talk to them, but I’m actually looking at their monobrow or wondering about that strange-looking mole on their forehead.
I think there are more people like Earl than anyone would like to believe. I’m definitely one of those. I have many acquaintances, but few if any true friends.
People have always been a part of my life with school and work, etc. But retirement is my time, along with my little dog, and I’m perfectly happy with that!
When I’m gathering my thoughts, I usually don’t make eye contact because I find it distracting. I don’t like to hear peoples voices when I’m trying to read for the same reason.
I’ve always been able to look at someone in the eye even a person passing and speaking. Generally, saying good morning or how you doing. I worked in jobs in USPS as carrier, supervisor, etc then in grocery stores. You have to be pleasant!
Earl, you ought to invest in a smartphone – with wired ear buds. Then you can just look at your phone and pretend to be searching your music or podcast library. That’s a SURE way to get those pesky people to leave you alone.
I was about twenty when someone advised me to look people in the eye when I’m talking to them; until then, it never occurred to me to do so. I think that’s why I still have trouble reading people’s expressions. It also seems to be why so many iGenners have the same problem.
That said, there are cultures where looking people of higher status than yourself in the eye is considered rude. Many Spanish speaking cultures are like this; it’s how the 1977 Humboldt Park riots in Chicago started.
I’m with Earl. My girlfriend is the same way and has to force herself to do things outside of her comfort zone. She does Meals on Wheels, plays pickleball and goes to an exercise class. I quilt so I have to force myself to go the quilt shop. She ‘peoples’ a lot more than I do.
Am I the only one here who genuinely likes people? I make friends easily at work, and there is a lot of flux with the people I play soccer with on Stanford University campus (we draw from a group of more than 60 people), so I make a new friend almost every week.
Hello Everyone 4 days ago
He sounds like Rat on Pearls Before Swine
Plumb.Bob Premium Member 4 days ago
I am with Earl. I have enough friends.
KA7DRE Premium Member 4 days ago
When I was a kid and even to this day, I’ve always had trouble looking people in the eye.I have to force myself to do that at times… Don’t know why. It’s just my nature & the way I as raised.
hariseldon59 4 days ago
There are many places where it’s not a good idea to make eye contact with strangers.
oldthang 4 days ago
I knew an Army Captain like that and it always bothered me.
jonescientific 4 days ago
I’m with Earl.
syzygy47 4 days ago
There’s nothing to base a conversation on with a ships passing in the night, or day. But if i see someone looking at something in walmart that befits a comment, i will.
jillzim Premium Member 3 days ago
Big same, Earl, big same.
Ubintold 3 days ago
With enemies, who needs friends?
iggyman 3 days ago
You’re in good company, Earl!
win.45mag 3 days ago
They are probably thinking that, and worse, when they see Earl coming.
Shirl Summ Premium Member 3 days ago
Amen Earl. Me too.
Acworthless 3 days ago
People think I’m looking them in the eye when I talk to them, but I’m actually looking at their monobrow or wondering about that strange-looking mole on their forehead.
PraiseofFolly 3 days ago
When I’m out walking, half the people are listening to music through earpieces. And women avoid men they don’t know. I get it.
Mugens Premium Member 3 days ago
I think there are more people like Earl than anyone would like to believe. I’m definitely one of those. I have many acquaintances, but few if any true friends.
Christopher White Premium Member 3 days ago
People suck, so why get new friends?
Carl Premium Member 3 days ago
She should recognize that Earl is a smart man.
javaman8263 3 days ago
I’m the same way. here’s a trick I learned. look at the bridge of their nose.
Watchdog 3 days ago
Thank you for this
rgulyash 3 days ago
Keep one on the person, one on your wallet
My First Premium Member 3 days ago
I taught my 3 sons and am now teaching my Grandkids that to make a good first impression, look the person in the eye, and give a firm handshake.
gozirra2 Premium Member 3 days ago
My first reaction when someone is approaching me, do I know them and if I do, what the heck is their name?
sarahbowl1 Premium Member 3 days ago
People have always been a part of my life with school and work, etc. But retirement is my time, along with my little dog, and I’m perfectly happy with that!
ANIMAL 3 days ago
OMG……. I’m turning into EARL..!!!!!!!!!!!
Angry Indeed Premium Member 3 days ago
When I’m gathering my thoughts, I usually don’t make eye contact because I find it distracting. I don’t like to hear peoples voices when I’m trying to read for the same reason.
VICTOR PROULX 3 days ago
The biblical comand to judge not, was talking about the person walking toward you on the sidewalk. Not the thief, or politician.
More Coffee Please! Premium Member 3 days ago
Yup.
flemmingo 3 days ago
I’ve always been able to look at someone in the eye even a person passing and speaking. Generally, saying good morning or how you doing. I worked in jobs in USPS as carrier, supervisor, etc then in grocery stores. You have to be pleasant!
royq27 3 days ago
Earl has it licked!
cellodude1990 3 days ago
Perhaps this is residue from the whole “stranger danger” program from the last century.
EMGULS79 3 days ago
Earl, you ought to invest in a smartphone – with wired ear buds. Then you can just look at your phone and pretend to be searching your music or podcast library. That’s a SURE way to get those pesky people to leave you alone.
oish 3 days ago
Why are we called misanthropes when we don’t miss anyone?
ladykat 3 days ago
I’m the same as Earl. I don’t do well with new people.
ira.crank 3 days ago
Friends are a security risk.
prrdh 3 days ago
I was about twenty when someone advised me to look people in the eye when I’m talking to them; until then, it never occurred to me to do so. I think that’s why I still have trouble reading people’s expressions. It also seems to be why so many iGenners have the same problem.
That said, there are cultures where looking people of higher status than yourself in the eye is considered rude. Many Spanish speaking cultures are like this; it’s how the 1977 Humboldt Park riots in Chicago started.
The Orange Mailman 3 days ago
Earl and I have so much in common. Maybe we could not hang out together sometime.
ragsarooni 3 days ago
Same here,earl,’ol boy! Most days I’m content to just talk to my dogs…..
MuddyUSA Premium Member 3 days ago
You still have it Earl………
Mike Baldwin creator 3 days ago
A friend in need is a friend indeed.
Queen of America 3 days ago
I’m with Earl. My girlfriend is the same way and has to force herself to do things outside of her comfort zone. She does Meals on Wheels, plays pickleball and goes to an exercise class. I quilt so I have to force myself to go the quilt shop. She ‘peoples’ a lot more than I do.
zeexenon 3 days ago
All mine died or moved to Panama.
ToborRedrum 3 days ago
I’m with Earl. There are two kinds of people in this world and I recommend you avoid them both.
ca_jeffo Premium Member 3 days ago
Am I the only one here who genuinely likes people? I make friends easily at work, and there is a lot of flux with the people I play soccer with on Stanford University campus (we draw from a group of more than 60 people), so I make a new friend almost every week.
David Huie Green LoveJoyAndPeace 3 days ago
Earl has more friends than he desires.
I assume everyone is my friend and wonder why my friends are acting unfriendly.
Zebrastripes 3 days ago
The older I get the more I don’t like a lot of noise, chatter, crowds and nosey people. LOL
Roscoe 3 days ago
“When you see a pretty girl walking towards you…” “I suck in my gut.”
gozirra2 Premium Member 3 days ago
Earl’s memory is full. He no longer has any empty storage space. When he is approached, all he sees is buffering image due insufficient bandwidth.
Smeagol 3 days ago
That’s me, that is why I wear a boonie, tilt my head down and leave me alone lol
The-Great-Gildersleeve 3 days ago
kind of an abrupt, mid story arc jump into re-runs ……. jinkies!
eced52 3 days ago
I think that’s everybody’s reaction nowadays.
sincavage05 3 days ago
I get his world, I just want to move on my journey in peace and harmony, and often I’m singing an old 60’s song.
olds_cool63 3 days ago
Earl is a very smart man!
ednorton130 2 days ago
I like Earl we could be friends, he would never call me, I would never call him! God forbid we ever meet in person.