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I guess itās true that, for as much as a kid drives a parent up the wall over the years, the parent feels kind of empty and lonely when the kid moves out to start his or her own life (as a kid must, true, but the feelingās always there).
Now is not the time for āfeathering the nestā. Now is the time for downsizing. OR stay put and focus on yourself: Take those trips you couldnāt do with kids, immerse yourself in a new or held-off passion (sport, art, etc). This is YOUR time and it can be the best time of your life.
I remember my parents driving me crazy for years, constantly wanting to bunch up all 4 kids in the van and drive around to check out new houses. It struck me as the most asinine thing ever, but I guess they were house-hunting, looking for a bigger placeā¦ then I moved out, then my brother did (then moved back in), then my sisters didā¦ and mom & dad were like āWell, why bother moving to a bigger house? Thereās nobody IN it now!ā
All three of our kids had to return home for a spell as a result of bumps in their roads. Our oldest has been with us for about ten years now and will probably be fore the rest of his life. He has become progressively more disabled (the result of prednisone dependence in childhood) and would find it very hard to make it on his own, even aside from money issues. It is pretty certain I will survive him and my wife. It is not a bad life, all told.
I recently came across a quote (author unknown) that helped me put life into perspective: āThink of all the things you DONāT have that you DONāT want.ā
I left home at 17 and never looked back. My two boys, on the other hand, had to be damn near catapulted into the next county before they got the hint in their mid 20ās.
Thatās the best time to feather! Toss the old, bring in the new. Make the space you always wanted when they were all home and you said āwhat is the point of getting nice stuff when the kids will just leave a trail of stains?ā
She does have pointā¦but thatās why while the kids aree growing up you prepare for what I call the āafterlifeā. In 2004-05 I attended media broadcasting school. Now that Iām retired I can focus on that.
I bought my youngest, bachelor son a small house down the street when he was 27, just so he had a place of his own. First thing he did was move in his girlfriend. Now at 50 heās still there, and still a bachelor, despite several other live in girlfriends along the way. A house of his own may seem extreme, but it was worth every penny.
There are a number of troubling things about Connieās statements. First of all, her son is 17 years old and not out of high school. She still has responsibility for him. Why does she say that he is never home. Where is he going that would cause him not to be at home and why does this not bother Connie? (We are going to find out the answer to this question and it does not make Connieās lack of interest look any better.)
Second is the news that Gayle has gone to stay with her mother. Long time readers will remember that Gayleās mother was such a deadbeat mom that the court gave custody of her daughters to her father. When the question came up of his relocating his daughters from Thunder Bay to Milborough to appease Connieās desire to move there, the courts could not find Gayleās mother because no one had seen her for over two years (at that time). Why in the world would Gayle even be allowed to stay with her? Remember at this time, Gayle would be a senior in high school and still a minor.
Different attitude from the World War 2 generation. As soon as their kids left home for college or their first apartment, the parents often transformed the kidās bedroom into a drawing room or den.
Since thereās also no point in feathering the nest when the kids are there because theyāre going to trash it, forget the nest! Go on that trip youāve always wanted!
Thatās Elly for you. The kids arenāt even within a mile of her and sheās STILL popping off comments that would make them feel unwanted. Letās face it, Elly is so obsessed with her image and what other people think, that if she had her way, sheād have skipped the kids and just given birth to FURNITURE!
Templo S.U.D. almost 3 years ago
tough, isnāt it?
Baarorso almost 3 years ago
I guess itās true that, for as much as a kid drives a parent up the wall over the years, the parent feels kind of empty and lonely when the kid moves out to start his or her own life (as a kid must, true, but the feelingās always there).
Macushlalondra almost 3 years ago
The nest is not empty! Youāre still there! Youād enjoy all those things Elly mentioned.
dlkrueger33 almost 3 years ago
Now is not the time for āfeathering the nestā. Now is the time for downsizing. OR stay put and focus on yourself: Take those trips you couldnāt do with kids, immerse yourself in a new or held-off passion (sport, art, etc). This is YOUR time and it can be the best time of your life.
Susan00100 almost 3 years ago
This is the same woman who used to dump her son at the Pattersons so that she could chase after Phil.
The same woman whose stepdaughters hated her.
Now, sheās a self-pitying drama queen!!
Just wait until Lawrence outs himself as gay!!
Jabroniville Premium Member almost 3 years ago
I remember my parents driving me crazy for years, constantly wanting to bunch up all 4 kids in the van and drive around to check out new houses. It struck me as the most asinine thing ever, but I guess they were house-hunting, looking for a bigger placeā¦ then I moved out, then my brother did (then moved back in), then my sisters didā¦ and mom & dad were like āWell, why bother moving to a bigger house? Thereās nobody IN it now!ā
Johnnyrico almost 3 years ago
Maybe Ellyās three kids can live at Connieās house for a whileā¦
flagmichael almost 3 years ago
All three of our kids had to return home for a spell as a result of bumps in their roads. Our oldest has been with us for about ten years now and will probably be fore the rest of his life. He has become progressively more disabled (the result of prednisone dependence in childhood) and would find it very hard to make it on his own, even aside from money issues. It is pretty certain I will survive him and my wife. It is not a bad life, all told.
'IndyMan' almost 3 years ago
Yeah, BUTā¦ā¦..doesnāt matter how big or old or how far away they getā¦ā¦.they are still āYOUR KIDSā
Thechildinme almost 3 years ago
I recently came across a quote (author unknown) that helped me put life into perspective: āThink of all the things you DONāT have that you DONāT want.ā
e.groves almost 3 years ago
The first thing you should is change all of the locks.
Twelve Badgers in a Suit Premium Member almost 3 years ago
Itās not empty. Youāre there.
vaughnrl2003 Premium Member almost 3 years ago
I sense the āyou need a petā talk coming.
Smitman56 almost 3 years ago
I left home at 17 and never looked back. My two boys, on the other hand, had to be damn near catapulted into the next county before they got the hint in their mid 20ās.
Jaymi Cee Premium Member almost 3 years ago
Thatās the best time to feather! Toss the old, bring in the new. Make the space you always wanted when they were all home and you said āwhat is the point of getting nice stuff when the kids will just leave a trail of stains?ā
Bob Blumenfeld almost 3 years ago
I sense that Lynn was going through some of that empty-nesting when she drew this.
djtenltd almost 3 years ago
She does have pointā¦but thatās why while the kids aree growing up you prepare for what I call the āafterlifeā. In 2004-05 I attended media broadcasting school. Now that Iām retired I can focus on that.
snowedin, now known as Missy's mom almost 3 years ago
I donāt feel like an empty nester. My daughter and her kids now live on our place, and the son in our house.
this is summerdog almost 3 years ago
I bought my youngest, bachelor son a small house down the street when he was 27, just so he had a place of his own. First thing he did was move in his girlfriend. Now at 50 heās still there, and still a bachelor, despite several other live in girlfriends along the way. A house of his own may seem extreme, but it was worth every penny.
howtheduck almost 3 years ago
There are a number of troubling things about Connieās statements. First of all, her son is 17 years old and not out of high school. She still has responsibility for him. Why does she say that he is never home. Where is he going that would cause him not to be at home and why does this not bother Connie? (We are going to find out the answer to this question and it does not make Connieās lack of interest look any better.)
Second is the news that Gayle has gone to stay with her mother. Long time readers will remember that Gayleās mother was such a deadbeat mom that the court gave custody of her daughters to her father. When the question came up of his relocating his daughters from Thunder Bay to Milborough to appease Connieās desire to move there, the courts could not find Gayleās mother because no one had seen her for over two years (at that time). Why in the world would Gayle even be allowed to stay with her? Remember at this time, Gayle would be a senior in high school and still a minor.
John Jorgensen almost 3 years ago
I thought Lawrence was Michaelās age. Wouldnāt that make him a little young to be ānever homeā?
kab2rb almost 3 years ago
Since they are empty nesters, maybe they need a change and look for a smaller house.
198.23.5.11 almost 3 years ago
Gayle and Molly must not have clicked with the readers,They were out of the strip almost as soon as they were introduced.
mindjob almost 3 years ago
the point is to flip the house, take the money and run off with the pool boy.
USN1977 almost 3 years ago
Different attitude from the World War 2 generation. As soon as their kids left home for college or their first apartment, the parents often transformed the kidās bedroom into a drawing room or den.
mckeonfuneralhomebx almost 3 years ago
sell the house and move into a Seniors condo. That will stop the kids from moving back!!!
circleM almost 3 years ago
ā«Late at night a big old house gets lonely.I guess every form of refuge has its priceā«
sousamannd almost 3 years ago
Not meā¦ I was glad to seem them able to fly and I enjoy all their flying now.
coffeeturtle almost 3 years ago
Good time to move out of state and donāt leave your new address.
wait.. what??
maverick.kaminski almost 3 years ago
Since thereās also no point in feathering the nest when the kids are there because theyāre going to trash it, forget the nest! Go on that trip youāve always wanted!
Guilty Bystander almost 3 years ago
Because itās YOUR nest now?
HodgeElmwood almost 3 years ago
Ellie, thatās not focusing on Connieā¦itās focusing on the house!
edeloriea14 almost 3 years ago
Maybe Connie could use a pet.
CoreyTaylor1 almost 3 years ago
Thatās Elly for you. The kids arenāt even within a mile of her and sheās STILL popping off comments that would make them feel unwanted. Letās face it, Elly is so obsessed with her image and what other people think, that if she had her way, sheād have skipped the kids and just given birth to FURNITURE!
hagarthehorrible almost 3 years ago
She has a point there, Elly.
Black76Manta almost 3 years ago
Ouch! hard, but true!