Who do they think she is? Six year old Shannon? What 19 year old has not learned to put the dirty dishes in the sink / dish washer? What does Greg think this is, “Family Circus”?
She got off easy. I hate it when people just leave their mess (even if it is only a bowl) sitting there and not taking care of it. It says “I’m too special to clean up after myself. Take care of it since I can’t be bothered.” It says the other person is less important than you.
For me it’s always been the opposite, even now it’s my father who gives the very, VERY long speeches in an irritated voice when he thinks I’ve done something wrong. So, pretty much every time we see each other.
I JUST typed this diatribe on Nest Heads… seems to fit here as well:I read a study years back about how single moms raise boys who are wimpier in general. On the play ground, the mom will yell “Be careful!” and “Don’t go up so high,” and if the kid gets hurt, they coddle them. Dad’s on the other hand, encourage boys to take risks, and tell them to suck it up when they get hurt. And now, all these years later, we have men with top knots, dressed in women’s clothes, looking for the ‘safe space’ in their university because someone triggered them with a harsh word! Just sayin’!
Has nothing to do with eating cereal! Mothers have the need to explain why you need to do things in nauseating detail, yet in many cases that is unnecessary. Fathers on the, other hand know (or at least assume) that the child knows better, and cuts through the BS! The child knows that they haven’t performed a task and are usually just being lazy.
I am a boomer born in 1951 and my generation (nod to the Who) were often ridiculed by older generations as the spoiled never spanked Dr Spock (no not the Star Trek Spock) babies.
Can’t say I really have an opinion. I guess I would vote for Frank’s style, but I’m still trying to get past the idea that a person this age doesn’t pick up their dishes. Even little kids learn to, at least, put their dishes in the sink. So to me, at her age, the fact that Luann still doesn’t automatically pick up her bowl just seems impossible.
Wow, Luann is WAY too old to be doing this! Considering that she is actually old enough to be living on her own, and maybe even married with a small child, I shudder to think what the rest of her living environment would look like (and we thought her bedroom was bad!).
Where I’ve seen this happen, it seems to be the result of the parents doing everything for the kids. My brother’s kids seemed to do it regularly, and usually leaving the bowl half full of milk. BUT, they were only in early elementary school at the time!
It’s completely the opposite in my household. My husband will give the loquacious lecture, while I’ll just remind my kid briefly. I find the brief reminder works better, because they already know the reasons why they’re supposed to do the thing; the lecture just gets their hackles up and starts a fight — half the time, it ends with them storming off to their room and leaving the trivial task undone, where as the brief reminder actually works.
C almost 2 years ago
Say only what needs to be said
Templo S.U.D. almost 2 years ago
yeah… big difference in parental discipline
Tyge almost 2 years ago
Get to the crux of the matter before she gets away!
beb01 almost 2 years ago
Who do they think she is? Six year old Shannon? What 19 year old has not learned to put the dirty dishes in the sink / dish washer? What does Greg think this is, “Family Circus”?
Joe1962 almost 2 years ago
Say what needs to said Nancy i don’t know if you will guilt trip Luann into doing her chores.
kenhense almost 2 years ago
Will G & K ever stop treating Luann like a 13 year old ???
Macushlalondra almost 2 years ago
She got off easy. I hate it when people just leave their mess (even if it is only a bowl) sitting there and not taking care of it. It says “I’m too special to clean up after myself. Take care of it since I can’t be bothered.” It says the other person is less important than you.
TexTech almost 2 years ago
If my wife had wanted kids, I’m pretty sure she would have been just like Nancy.
luann1212 almost 2 years ago
I’m a dad and I raised my kids more like Nancy, but as anyone here can see I tend toward verbosity (lol).
fuzzbucket Premium Member almost 2 years ago
What’s wrong with letting Puddles do the dishes?
Brdshtt Premium Member almost 2 years ago
Keep the words to a minimum. They generally are not listening anyway.
Vilyehm almost 2 years ago
Puddles discipline.
Dibs.
BlitzMcD almost 2 years ago
I prefer to take Mom’s approach. I like being verbose and it keeps ’em guessing.
cabalonrye almost 2 years ago
I love it.
Mordock999 Premium Member almost 2 years ago
Moms explain.
Dads grunt.
Aladar30 Premium Member almost 2 years ago
For me it’s always been the opposite, even now it’s my father who gives the very, VERY long speeches in an irritated voice when he thinks I’ve done something wrong. So, pretty much every time we see each other.
jr1234 almost 2 years ago
Luann is way too old not to clean up after herself. Time to kick her out.
Judy Hendrickson [Unnamed Reader - 852856] almost 2 years ago
Ohhhand let’s not forget about Alexa who turns on the lights and answers questions
Doug K almost 2 years ago
Kids don’t (always) need a whole sermon.
Count Olaf Premium Member almost 2 years ago
Ann Eiffel Discipline…… ooooooooo. Eat your hearts out, haters. You’re not worthy. ;9
Johnnyrico almost 2 years ago
Still an inconsiderate slob.
Lynnjav almost 2 years ago
Dad’s comment is a reminder of mom’s comment; Luann already understands the why.
WilliamVollmer almost 2 years ago
Frank believes in one word discipline.
david_42 almost 2 years ago
It’s not safe to leave the bowl on the table, Puddles could get hurt jumping up and down. Put it on the floor.
locake almost 2 years ago
Luann is 19 years old. They are done raising her and telling her what to do. If she can’t follow the rules she needs to move elsewhere.
locake almost 2 years ago
I would say a little more than Frank and a lot less than Nancy.
Dr. Whom almost 2 years ago
Frank knows that Luann does not need the lecture. She just needs to be reminded.
GaryCooper almost 2 years ago
Either way, she still leaves the bowl on the table.
tcayer almost 2 years ago
I JUST typed this diatribe on Nest Heads… seems to fit here as well:I read a study years back about how single moms raise boys who are wimpier in general. On the play ground, the mom will yell “Be careful!” and “Don’t go up so high,” and if the kid gets hurt, they coddle them. Dad’s on the other hand, encourage boys to take risks, and tell them to suck it up when they get hurt. And now, all these years later, we have men with top knots, dressed in women’s clothes, looking for the ‘safe space’ in their university because someone triggered them with a harsh word! Just sayin’!
anaditz almost 2 years ago
Cool! A comparison strip! I’ll start it off: Luann has two stripes on her belly in the right panel vs. one on the left!
Ellis97 almost 2 years ago
My mother always says that I shouldn’t leave dishes in the sink, even she leaves dishes in the sink all the time.
raybarb44 almost 2 years ago
It’s a Dad thing….
FGWaiss almost 2 years ago
Luann’s answer to Dad: “I will this afternoon, Dad. Bernice and I are meeting Nil and Jack at Bowlarama.”
rklynch almost 2 years ago
True
Otis Rufus Driftwood almost 2 years ago
Sometimes less is more.
tammyspeakslife Premium Member almost 2 years ago
I’m more like the mom but I’m working on getting to the point like the dad.
Bernedoodle almost 2 years ago
My paper printed 2/4/20 instead of 2/4/23 yesterday. The PC police strike again.
eladee AKA Wally almost 2 years ago
I have a friend who does the Nancy thing. It’s fun to watch her grandkids’ eyes glaze over as she over explains things to them.
northbraddock52 almost 2 years ago
I only had to give my girls the look or say very little so I can identify with this
suelou almost 2 years ago
Unless the bowl grows legs, it’s not walking itself to the dishwasher!
RonMcCalip almost 2 years ago
Has nothing to do with eating cereal! Mothers have the need to explain why you need to do things in nauseating detail, yet in many cases that is unnecessary. Fathers on the, other hand know (or at least assume) that the child knows better, and cuts through the BS! The child knows that they haven’t performed a task and are usually just being lazy.
JustMe almost 2 years ago
how does one not know how to clean up after themselves at 19?
YorkGirl Premium Member almost 2 years ago
Lol! Perfect! I remember those days!
Gen.Flashman almost 2 years ago
I am a boomer born in 1951 and my generation (nod to the Who) were often ridiculed by older generations as the spoiled never spanked Dr Spock (no not the Star Trek Spock) babies.
BuckarooDave almost 2 years ago
Monday: Bets dumps her plate of spaghetti on Gunther’s lap.
The Quiet One almost 2 years ago
Dad’s discipline for the win.
Guess05 almost 2 years ago
At our house it is the opposite. My husband will take 30 minutes to to explain something that needs one short sentence.
DM2860 almost 2 years ago
Momsplaining
Slatsmagee I almost 2 years ago
All my Old Man had to do was clear his throat, we got the message…
comic reader 22 almost 2 years ago
Can’t say I really have an opinion. I guess I would vote for Frank’s style, but I’m still trying to get past the idea that a person this age doesn’t pick up their dishes. Even little kids learn to, at least, put their dishes in the sink. So to me, at her age, the fact that Luann still doesn’t automatically pick up her bowl just seems impossible.
WF11 almost 2 years ago
Wow, Luann is WAY too old to be doing this! Considering that she is actually old enough to be living on her own, and maybe even married with a small child, I shudder to think what the rest of her living environment would look like (and we thought her bedroom was bad!).
Where I’ve seen this happen, it seems to be the result of the parents doing everything for the kids. My brother’s kids seemed to do it regularly, and usually leaving the bowl half full of milk. BUT, they were only in early elementary school at the time!
David Huie Green LoveJoyAndPeace almost 2 years ago
Succinct.
BuckarooDave almost 2 years ago
Monday: flying spaghetti???
kenhense almost 2 years ago
Drum roll for Monday’s episode: Will Gunthie stand up to Mommy???
Rhetorical_Question almost 2 years ago
Be more interesting if swimming suits were wear.
TravelinMan almost 2 years ago
Frank: Why use many word when few word do trick?
Moonkey Premium Member almost 2 years ago
The problem with Frank’s shorter, simpler reminder to LuAnn is that she will probably leave the spoon on the table.
Sailor46 USN 65-95 almost 2 years ago
Both work.
smartgrr almost 2 years ago
Wow, who knew I was more a dad than a mom?
DonCoyote® almost 2 years ago
Mansplaining,……… ugh.
tutibug5 almost 2 years ago
Is Frank asking Luann to go bowling with him? That’s so sweet of him.
JPuzzleWhiz almost 2 years ago
Frank: “Bowl.”
Luann: “Mug.”
Sisyphos almost 2 years ago
Neither “Mom discipline” nor “Dad discipline” works with Luann, who now at 19 is a worse sluggard than was brother Bradley in his younger years!
The Pro from Dover almost 2 years ago
’Cuz
AN almost 2 years ago
Frank so cool lol
calliarcale almost 2 years ago
It’s completely the opposite in my household. My husband will give the loquacious lecture, while I’ll just remind my kid briefly. I find the brief reminder works better, because they already know the reasons why they’re supposed to do the thing; the lecture just gets their hackles up and starts a fight — half the time, it ends with them storming off to their room and leaving the trivial task undone, where as the brief reminder actually works.
Rick Smith Premium Member almost 2 years ago
Yep