As I said yesterday, Dez was talking metaphorically. Bets, like so many here, couldn’t interpret it, so Dez had to spell it out for her. Good for Dez. Let’s see if Bets will move forward with this new knowledge. I see this as positive for Bets who may end up more likable for all the Bets haters here.
Credit where it’s due here people. Dez has been talking in metaphors all week. And probably would have continued, if Bets hadn’t put her foot down. Plus her advice doesn’t quite touch Bets’ main issue. Her pathological need for attention and/or approval.
Bets needed some time to feel bad and scared about the decisions she’s made and still has to make. But yes, it’s time for her to have a plan: Go back online or try something else for work? Stick with Gunther or cut him loose, so they could each meet someone else? I’m hoping for the breakup — Bets wasn’t a conflicted or unhappy person early in their relationship, when she was already very involved with her online world. But if there’s something else she’d like to do, she needs to get any old job for money while figuring out what her next big goal could be.
‘Get off your whiny b u t t and get on with life!’
‘Please stop it with the metaphors!’
‘Okay! Get off your whiny @$$, get it in gear and figure it out before you drive everyone here in th comic and all the readers of the comic crazy!! Now get out of here!’
‘OMG!! Someone please help! Dez jus had a stroke! Help!! Dez? Dez? DEZ?!? Oh, nooo..’
For me, Dez remains the one of the few likable characters. She tried to be kind, Betts was snotty about it. Betts criticized her ways and told her to just say what she means, Dez delivered. The bluntness came only after it was requested.
Sure thing Dez! I’ll just start a blog called “Dez’s ditzy advice”, build a lucrative fan base, and see how you like being attacked online. Bets has as much of a pulse as the rest of the characters on here, she does have a “life”. She doesn’t need to meet anyone else’s standards for a “life” other than that. At best, the reason she doesn’t appear to have a “life” per Dez is because she chose to give up a subject she was interested in and compensated for to hitch her buggy to Gunther’s non existent “life” plans. Bets needs to have a talk with Gunther about there mutual future and HIS role in it (providing for her? Moving out? Getting a more lucrative job than TA? Coming to terms with the “old Bets” being gone and supporting that chainge?). If Gunther isn’t willing to chainge, maybe it IS time to pull the plug on that relationship and get a better defined relationship elsewhere.
I really hate what G&K are doing to Bets. 1. Bets is in Business School. 2. Bets is extremely intelligent, remember she helped Tiffany in studies. 3. Bets has to do an internship. BTW, it should be in 2024 or 2025. 4. Bets should get a finance degree. I see only one problem with Bets, she’s way out of Gunther’s league.
Bets needs to admit that she was only interested in Gunther as long as she could use him to get hits on the internet. Without that component, she has no use for him.
And is Dez still a student? What’s her major? Have we ever seen her actually going to a class or doing anything school related, other than living in a dorm?
I’m with Dez. Bets has been steeped in her own pity party for too long. She’s swinging between extremes and catastrophizing her situation. Get on with it.
And despite what some “folks” say here today it’s pretty GOOD advice.
Although I don’t see why Bets needs to be told that, since she was perfectly willing to “get on with her life” each time she broke up with her so-called “liars and cheaters” in the past.
Dez is spot on. Bets isn’t getting on with life yet, and she needs to. Right now, she’s still mourning her influence r life. It’s a stage and largely a self pity party. When/if she gets to a point where she stops looking at a door that’s closing and looks towards doors that are opening – then she’ll be properly moving on.
Well, Dez definitely got to the point. Sooo, is Bets getting on with her life going to be w/o Gunther as we can figure she’s going to get back with her social media.
Betts is ADDICTED to social media. She is either all in ( and that ruins her life with Gunn) or she is all out, no other option. If she wants a life with Gunn (who plays second fiddle to her “fan”) then she has to step away from her addiction.
Dez has a point. But I preferred her metaphors, they are more poetic. I think she agrees to be direct with Bers because they have been friends for years. Her advice is good, but what to do is something that Bets has decides and I wonder what she will do. She has to rethink an entire career and it’s not easy. I hope Tiffany is involved in all of that. The two together can do great things.
“My empty life”. That is what some people would call a “Freudian Slip”. Sounds like Bets needs to get honest and break up with Gunther so that she can have the freedom to decide who she really is and what she really wants to be, without the pressure of trying to conform to his ideals and expectations. She has the ability to fly, but right now, and for some time, Gunther has been an anchor around her neck. I would have been done with him after the disastrous dinner with Al and Irma when he didn’t stick up for her, personally.
Isaiah 58:11 New Living Translation (NLT)The LORD will guide you continually, giving you water when you are dry and restoring your strength. You will be like a well-watered garden, like an ever-flowing spring.
Well the kind subtle approach didn’t work so Dez has decided to just lay it on the line. She’s right. No one but Bets can fix this. No one can do the work for her. I get it that she’s lost and empty and depressed. So she should talk to a real counselor—-not Bernice! I don’t agree with those who say she should return to social media “just a little” in order to make income. She clearly cannot handle that right now and would soon be just as obsessed as she was before. She needs to take Dez’s advice and focus on finding OTHER THINGS positive things that she can do to nurture her sense of self without the quick easy fix of adoring “fans”. No matter what she would like to believe the “fans” are not her family and if they were they would be a bad and dysfunctional family. She has many other better relationships in her life, including a guy who loves her and friends who care about her. All the rest is just junk food for the soul.
walt.donovan 5 months ago
Finally the straight — manure — from Dez!
Rhetorical_Question 5 months ago
STOP WHINY
mnexplorer+ 5 months ago
Yep, that’s it!
Tyge Premium Member 5 months ago
What? No mystic infusion of exotic teas? Words straight from the shoulder and aimed right between the eyes!
BayReader 5 months ago
Woohoo! Dez!! Atta girl! Give it to Bets straight. “Get off your whiny butt, and get on with life.”
Joe1962 Premium Member 5 months ago
Straight talk from Dez, Very clear and precise.
catchup 5 months ago
I like Des.
redhawk1138 5 months ago
Dez should talk more like that,
Rhetorical_Question 5 months ago
Bets Malone, do something new?
Asharah 5 months ago
Is her butt what is whining?
9thCapricorn 5 months ago
Well said, Dez! I mean the stop whining one not the other one. She needs that swift kick in the butt.
MarieStanford 5 months ago
Spot on!! Go Dez!!
cmxx 5 months ago
No, Bets’s butt is not whining. Dez remains just non-mystical enough not to have literally meant that Bets’s butt is whiny.
Enter.Name.Here 5 months ago
’Nuf sed!
paulscon 5 months ago
As I said yesterday, Dez was talking metaphorically. Bets, like so many here, couldn’t interpret it, so Dez had to spell it out for her. Good for Dez. Let’s see if Bets will move forward with this new knowledge. I see this as positive for Bets who may end up more likable for all the Bets haters here.
ericbrower 5 months ago
Credit where it’s due here people. Dez has been talking in metaphors all week. And probably would have continued, if Bets hadn’t put her foot down. Plus her advice doesn’t quite touch Bets’ main issue. Her pathological need for attention and/or approval.
R.W.Singer -SF 5 months ago
About time!!!
momofalex7 5 months ago
Finally!
fuzzbucket Premium Member 5 months ago
I think that was supposed to be “sow new crops.”
Last Rose Of Summer Premium Member 5 months ago
Move on, and let Gunther be Gunther.
Macushlalondra 5 months ago
Well said! Was that plain enough for you?
RSH 5 months ago
Oooooooo……….
Willow Mt Lyon 5 months ago
That is the most direct statement Dez has ever made, and she made it good.
Azul0858 5 months ago
Bets needed some time to feel bad and scared about the decisions she’s made and still has to make. But yes, it’s time for her to have a plan: Go back online or try something else for work? Stick with Gunther or cut him loose, so they could each meet someone else? I’m hoping for the breakup — Bets wasn’t a conflicted or unhappy person early in their relationship, when she was already very involved with her online world. But if there’s something else she’d like to do, she needs to get any old job for money while figuring out what her next big goal could be.
nightflight 5 months ago
Move on, Bets. Dez wants a crack at Gunther for herself.
snsurone76 5 months ago
As Candide says at the end of his novel, “…we must cultivate our own gardens.”
kenhense 5 months ago
AHA! Dez speaks English.
jmworacle 5 months ago
Bravo!
Wilkins068 5 months ago
‘Get off your whiny b u t t and get on with life!’
‘Please stop it with the metaphors!’
‘Okay! Get off your whiny @$$, get it in gear and figure it out before you drive everyone here in th comic and all the readers of the comic crazy!! Now get out of here!’
‘OMG!! Someone please help! Dez jus had a stroke! Help!! Dez? Dez? DEZ?!? Oh, nooo..’
Purple People Eater 5 months ago
Also, here’s a hoe. Start working.
JonnyT 5 months ago
For me, Dez remains the one of the few likable characters. She tried to be kind, Betts was snotty about it. Betts criticized her ways and told her to just say what she means, Dez delivered. The bluntness came only after it was requested.
Bwahahaha! 5 months ago
FINALLY! Cutting through Dez’s BS.
bh05150 5 months ago
This veiled lecture on social media is rich considering this forum, and others like it depend on it so much.
herdocow 5 months ago
Whatever!
KenHelmick 5 months ago
There. Was it so hard to just speak a declarative sentence?
herdocow 5 months ago
See Calvin & Hobbs for temporary relief from Psych 103!
JackReecher 5 months ago
Good advice because this thread is borrrrrrr-ing!
The Orange Mailman 5 months ago
Okay, go back to the mystic metaphors.
tremaine53 5 months ago
Yeah, Bets, I was getting a little woozy from the Mystic Metaphors myself.
astahl2003 5 months ago
Sure thing Dez! I’ll just start a blog called “Dez’s ditzy advice”, build a lucrative fan base, and see how you like being attacked online. Bets has as much of a pulse as the rest of the characters on here, she does have a “life”. She doesn’t need to meet anyone else’s standards for a “life” other than that. At best, the reason she doesn’t appear to have a “life” per Dez is because she chose to give up a subject she was interested in and compensated for to hitch her buggy to Gunther’s non existent “life” plans. Bets needs to have a talk with Gunther about there mutual future and HIS role in it (providing for her? Moving out? Getting a more lucrative job than TA? Coming to terms with the “old Bets” being gone and supporting that chainge?). If Gunther isn’t willing to chainge, maybe it IS time to pull the plug on that relationship and get a better defined relationship elsewhere.
Lescoe Brandon 5 months ago
I really hate what G&K are doing to Bets. 1. Bets is in Business School. 2. Bets is extremely intelligent, remember she helped Tiffany in studies. 3. Bets has to do an internship. BTW, it should be in 2024 or 2025. 4. Bets should get a finance degree. I see only one problem with Bets, she’s way out of Gunther’s league.
sueb1863 5 months ago
Bets needs to admit that she was only interested in Gunther as long as she could use him to get hits on the internet. Without that component, she has no use for him.
And is Dez still a student? What’s her major? Have we ever seen her actually going to a class or doing anything school related, other than living in a dorm?
fjc007 5 months ago
I’m with Dez. Bets has been steeped in her own pity party for too long. She’s swinging between extremes and catastrophizing her situation. Get on with it.
gigagrouch 5 months ago
Brutal honesty gets the point across
Mordock999 Premium Member 5 months ago
FINALLY, Dez is making sense in the last panel.
And despite what some “folks” say here today it’s pretty GOOD advice.
Although I don’t see why Bets needs to be told that, since she was perfectly willing to “get on with her life” each time she broke up with her so-called “liars and cheaters” in the past.
Ellis97 5 months ago
Metaphors can get really annoying.
ekw555 5 months ago
she’s kind of an attention hoe . . .
GirlGeek Premium Member 5 months ago
Just go back to social media!! Get back to work!!
Anon4242 5 months ago
Dez is spot on. Bets isn’t getting on with life yet, and she needs to. Right now, she’s still mourning her influence r life. It’s a stage and largely a self pity party. When/if she gets to a point where she stops looking at a door that’s closing and looks towards doors that are opening – then she’ll be properly moving on.
Just-me 5 months ago
About time someone told her that.
comic reader 22 5 months ago
THANK YOU BETS! Finally! Someone has told Dez to shut up with her pretentious, self-righteous gibberish!
oakie817 5 months ago
there you go
ctolson 5 months ago
Well, Dez definitely got to the point. Sooo, is Bets getting on with her life going to be w/o Gunther as we can figure she’s going to get back with her social media.
DawnQuinn1 5 months ago
Betts is ADDICTED to social media. She is either all in ( and that ruins her life with Gunn) or she is all out, no other option. If she wants a life with Gunn (who plays second fiddle to her “fan”) then she has to step away from her addiction.
BadCreaturesBecomeDems 5 months ago
Dez just learned some people aren’t too bright…
gluetrap 5 months ago
Chauncey Gardner!
Lord Hearteater 5 months ago
The dump truck may beep again soon.
atomicdog 5 months ago
THANK you!!!
DM2860 5 months ago
Have Betts break up some of the ground with her hands. It will help her feel grounded.
preacherman Premium Member 5 months ago
Let’s go back to the colorful metaphors, please.
Aladar30 Premium Member 5 months ago
Dez has a point. But I preferred her metaphors, they are more poetic. I think she agrees to be direct with Bers because they have been friends for years. Her advice is good, but what to do is something that Bets has decides and I wonder what she will do. She has to rethink an entire career and it’s not easy. I hope Tiffany is involved in all of that. The two together can do great things.
[Unnamed Reader - bddb15] 5 months ago
Good for Dez! Hit the nail smack on the head!!!
davidlwashburn 5 months ago
Dez has difficulty speaking regular English.
French Persons Premium Member 5 months ago
Could have saved us all a week of BS and just said that a few days ago, Dez.
Shanana 5 months ago
Thank you, Dez! Thank you very much!
cmxx 5 months ago
Bets may not yet have completely internalized the idea that posting isn’t the same thing as living (credit: Margaret Lyons, The New York Times).
Tetonbil Premium Member 5 months ago
Hooray! Go Dez!
comic reader 22 5 months ago
“My empty life”. That is what some people would call a “Freudian Slip”. Sounds like Bets needs to get honest and break up with Gunther so that she can have the freedom to decide who she really is and what she really wants to be, without the pressure of trying to conform to his ideals and expectations. She has the ability to fly, but right now, and for some time, Gunther has been an anchor around her neck. I would have been done with him after the disastrous dinner with Al and Irma when he didn’t stick up for her, personally.
Terminal Frost Premium Member 5 months ago
MuddyUSA Premium Member 5 months ago
Oh well….it is just a comic……
Paul D Premium Member 5 months ago
“All this bi_chin’ and moanin’ pitchin’ a fit — Get over it, get over it”
(Don Hendley)
miss c 5 months ago
Thank you, Dez. The girl was getting on my nerves
jfedorchuk 5 months ago
That is almost always helpful advice.
tammyspeakslife Premium Member 5 months ago
Isaiah 58:11 New Living Translation (NLT)The LORD will guide you continually, giving you water when you are dry and restoring your strength. You will be like a well-watered garden, like an ever-flowing spring.
basspro 5 months ago
Dez reminds me of StarWars character “ Old Big Wand Come Blow Me.”
PoodleGroomer 5 months ago
Get active and selective and interesting achievements will happen to you.
eladee AKA Wally 5 months ago
Well the kind subtle approach didn’t work so Dez has decided to just lay it on the line. She’s right. No one but Bets can fix this. No one can do the work for her. I get it that she’s lost and empty and depressed. So she should talk to a real counselor—-not Bernice! I don’t agree with those who say she should return to social media “just a little” in order to make income. She clearly cannot handle that right now and would soon be just as obsessed as she was before. She needs to take Dez’s advice and focus on finding OTHER THINGS positive things that she can do to nurture her sense of self without the quick easy fix of adoring “fans”. No matter what she would like to believe the “fans” are not her family and if they were they would be a bad and dysfunctional family. She has many other better relationships in her life, including a guy who loves her and friends who care about her. All the rest is just junk food for the soul.
David Huie Green ForceIsAUsefulFiction 5 months ago
“….to put it diplomatically.”
mindjob 5 months ago
Misery loves company
The Quiet One 5 months ago
Beautifully said Dez, maybe she will understand that.
TIMH 5 months ago
Bets just got much better advice from Dez than Luann has ever gotten from Bernice.
walter Premium Member 5 months ago
As the expression goes, “you can’t see what is ahead if you are always looking behind.”
KEA 5 months ago
who knew Dez could be succinct?
[Unnamed Reader - 14b4ce] 5 months ago
Tomorrow,Dez has to explain to Bets what a “parsnip” is.
jojo318 5 months ago
Yeah, get off your whiny butt and exit this strip forever.
JRobinson Premium Member 5 months ago
Good one, Dee! Now go over and have a chat with Luann and Beatrice.
erin.adamic Premium Member 5 months ago
I feel like Des is actually an old woman in disguise. She is way too wise not to have lived longer…
[Unnamed Reader - 14b4ce] 5 months ago
First one who sings “Farmer In The Dell” gets brained with a shovel
anonymooseandsquirrel Premium Member 5 months ago
Love it! Love Dez!
Le'Roy Hawkins 5 months ago
As Dr. Phil says, “Build a bridge and get over it.”
leighabc123 5 months ago
Wow! Dez rarely gets upset!
eced52 5 months ago
Finally!
ComicGent 5 months ago
If people really were to get off their whiny butts the social media site formerly called Twitter would pack up over night.
JPuzzleWhiz 5 months ago
“Mulch Ado About Nothing”
“Want Some Cheese With That Whiny?”
“I Never Metaphor I Didn’t Like”
“But Me No Butts”
elliel203 5 months ago
Good advice. If it was harming her mentally (which it was at the end) it doesn’t matter how lucrative it was. Time to find a healthier passion.
WilliamVollmer 5 months ago
You asked for it Betts, and, you got it. Now follow Dez’s plain talk advice, and, get on witha non-influencer life.
Caldonia 5 months ago
Earth Mother™! We love stereotypes!
bwest.devore37 5 months ago
Straight and to the point.
richardzimdars 5 months ago
And there it is.
eddi-TBH 5 months ago
Sometimes you gotta tell it like it is. Go Des.
Otis Rufus Driftwood 5 months ago
Bravo, Dez.
Michael McKown Premium Member 5 months ago
FINALLY! :)
BuckarooDave 5 months ago
tomorrow: Bets kicks dirt at Dez. :-/
kstewskis 5 months ago
BOOM. Dez comes off as a cosmic, hippy, free flow type, but deep down she’s more grounded and knows what’s what than all of them. Good job, Dez.
Black76Manta 5 months ago
A direct and simple talk, I like that, I feel that this way you get better results!